I met this guy ,wich is very nice and I realy like him ,but he comes from a rich family and never been married before( I was married and have kids ),wee went out couple times and everithing seems ok ,but I was wondering if I should be worried about the diferences between our class scale !
Anybody any advice !
2007-04-15 12:18:45 · 22 answers · asked by Juliet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work as a nurse and I'm a very simple person !
2007-04-15 12:19:24 · update #1
Wow, good catch . . tighten your net don't let him get away.
Show him your best and very best, when time comes for
him to introduce you to his family, be respectful and have
the best behavior, remember, that can be your judgement
day, you pass or you fail, dress appropriately.
The best luck to you,, go go girl..
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2007-04-15 12:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is based on respect, love, responsi-
bility and committment. Status of one's position
should not matter because if two people are the
above then everything else is accepted. The
in-laws may or may not like the situation but who
cares as the two getting married is what's impor-
tant as once married , the husband and wife
should keep their families in check about their
mate.
2007-04-15 13:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying
water seeks it's own level
and so it usally goes for relationships in general
in that you will seek someone to whom you can relate to
and if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth you will expect the same with a relationship. that is why as a general rule educated people will marry educated people, since they both have common core values ( in that they have same ideals, grow to appreciate what ti took to get there respective careers on track, and the power of money and not sqaundering it away, and generally are not divorced )
this is not to say that class differences can't works, but generally they don't due to all the differences growing up.
2007-04-15 12:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he ask you to marry him? Have you told him you have children?
I ask these questions because there are women who withhold information from a man about her children if she thinks it will end all possibilities of getting together.
A woman protecting her children from shattered hopes will have a family meeting with her children and explain to them she is only going on a date, and that it does not mean he will be their new daddy.
If you know he is rich (and he knows you have children), and he still went out with you, that action does not indicate he has issues of falling for a woman with children.
I believe the greatest test of whether a man is serious about a relationship, is to let him know you have a no-sex-before-marriage standard.
If that's all he wants from you, then he will move on and you will be spared the drama detaching your heart (and the hearts of your children) from such a man.
If he keeps trying to get you to have sex before marriage after you've told him of your standard, this is an indicator he has no regard for what you say (and not that he is so crazy out of his head with passion for you that he can't help himself). If he can't help himself when he is around you, it is quite possible he will not be able to control himself when he encounters someone who will have sex with him before marriage.
Yes, a relationship can work when people are on different socio-economic levels provided both parties have a certain level of emotional maturity.
Best wishes to you and your children.
2007-04-15 13:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gal LET ME TELL YA WHAT!!!!I have known some wealthy people who were "White Trash" and some people barely getting by and they had "Class" !!! You are a "Professional in the Medical Field" So HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH AND PUT PRIDE IN YOUR STRIDE!!!Ya know,this is America, not England. "Class" IS WHAT YOU ARE!! You help the sick and and infermed . Like Florence Nightingale and Mother Teresa. Question, Is he saying his family is wealthy? Have you met any of them? Seen their home? Reason I ask ,is some guys like to B.S. a girl . Now if things are going good he should be taking ya home to meet Mom& Dad. If he avoids meeting anyone ,BEWARE!!!!!!!
2007-04-15 12:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think couples will have differenes no matter what.
But if the guy really cares for you and doesn't mind your kids, then I'm sure things will be fine. Besides, I'm sure he has nothing against you if he went out with you a couple of times. And if he isn't the right guy, then don't worry and don't give up! :)
All the best!
2007-04-15 12:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be worried. You should try to have fun, and not worry about money or the past, live in the present. Love your children, and love yourself, and everything else will fall into place, think positive and don't let the class scale thing bother you, whats meant to be is meant to be is if its meant to be, it will happen.
2007-04-15 12:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by jill h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all...I was raised in a wealthy family, and my hubby poor...I was married and when I met him I already had a two year old and 4 months prego w/ another man's child...and we are married to this day...he has adopted my children...and he is the best thing that has ever happend to me and my children!
2007-04-15 12:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by crazeymazey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a professional and a single mom. Be proud. You should be. I don't care how rich he may be.Nobody is better than you are. If he and his family look down on you, that shows you are in a better position than he and his family.
2007-04-15 12:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could work if both are comfortable in the relationship. Get to know each other better--you'll get the signs if there's a doubt.
2007-04-15 12:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Joan J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋