could this be abuse..i was young so im not sure but it was sexual..he was about 10 or 11 and i was 6...could this have cause me to be lesbian? also, i was pretty horny as a kid could this have cause my lesbianism...
2007-04-15 12:13:55 · 15 answers · asked by Ask ME 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well this guy is currently a big pervert..he preys on older women also but at the time i guess ppl might say our "encounter" was casual
2007-04-15 12:24:01 · update #1
When two children (6 and 10) do sexual things together, it is just normal sexual experimentation....NOT abuse.
As to whether that caused your bisexuality, I really doubt if it affected it at all. Almost all of us have played "Doctor" with other kids.
2007-04-15 12:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Honey, if you are gay now, you were gay when you were born. Nothing can cause you to be gay.
I don't really know the nature of the encounter, but I would say at that age, playing doctor isn't that unusual. Unless there was serious sexual acts being mimicked, it was probably just a young bey being invasive and curious. Everyone wants to experiment sexually when they are younger because they are slowly discovering new things about their body and want to see what it is about.
Even if you were molested - and I really hope that you weren't - it still wouldn't have made you gay. No one can *become* gay. You are gay as long as you are alive.
2007-04-15 12:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jeannie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue what kind of thing happened, but if it was making you feel weird or touched you then yeah I would say, you were sexual abused because you were sort of taken advantaged of, didn't know what was going on, but didn't know what she could be doing was wrong. I don't think it would cause you to be a lesbian, and I think it's normal to be sort of sexual or curious about sexuality and touch. I even watch porno like when I was 4, and reenact with my toys and stuff (lol). (My brothers thought it would be funny to put it on) Also, most of the porn was women to women, it was erotic and it made me feel confused and wondered if it was normal. Ask myself is this bad to watch this and why do I feel like I do but don't, and if this made me feel sexual. Made me find out that they make me sexual or more curious about this kind of stuff that I thought was gross. I don't believe it made me a lesbian or like women, it's just probably kids don't understand how sex feels or why people do it. For girls, I think since we are more close and personal we may think we are having feelings we feel more comfortable, that leads to confusion of liking them. I'm thinking why did this 10 year old girl do this to you, she maybe saw it or something, but don't think she had feelings for you maybe she was curious about sex.
Also I found out jealousy can be confused with thinking of liking someone. Plus, gay may feel like a natural thing or born with it then why do people question it. It's usually because your scared of the other gender and then they feel gay because they like being around the same gender. You are not born gay, you have a choice. Maybe you felt this guy was making you unconfrontable and like being around girls because you don't feel threatened.
2007-04-15 12:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by scorpiontiger00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think almost everyone has had something of a sexual nature happen as a child. We are all curious but not homosexual. Your lesbianism is a matter of choice and in this day and age is a totally acceptable matter.
2007-04-15 12:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by ARLENE H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need anything to "blame" your being a lesbian on...be happy that you are a lesbian. From what I have seen, being a straight woman has some serious drawbacks. And no, you were not abused...you were playing around.
2007-04-15 12:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That young, it sounds more like a form of "playing doctor" -- unless serious penetration was involved. Since people are either gay, bi, or heterosexual from birth, it would not have caused your lesbianism.
The one thing you really should look into is if this guy continued to have sex with very young girls or if he matured into regular heterosexual activity, i.e. sex with girls his own age, and continues to have sex with women no younger than 18.
2007-04-15 12:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by mabster60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Everything* is abuse these days.
Normal childish experimentation? No! It's abuse! We just can't stand not to be victims.
You're a lesbian. Live with it.
2007-04-15 12:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by completelysurroundedbyimbeciles 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
id say at that age u couldn't call it abuse coz surely he didn't know what he was doing.
as for causing you to be a lasbian, i think it's in the person, thats who they are, i don't think anything can actually cause it as such!
2007-04-15 12:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's around the same time I had my first too. Maybe it caused your lesbianism, maybe it didn't.
2007-04-15 12:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing causes "Lesbianism" it just happens.
2007-04-15 12:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋