My ex has moved not one inch from 3 and a half years ago.I left for someone else after 22 years. So be it.50% of marriages end in divorce. She has dedicated her life to making mine as difficult as possible, lying in court, making false allegations of "harrassment" ( I havent spoken directly to her in 3 years) and the like.. does this ever end????
2007-04-15 12:05:07 · 9 answers · asked by malcolmhiggins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess she will "stew" over your infidelities as long as she needs too.
2007-04-15 12:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by oneontaw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's the reason you end one relationship before you start another one. The injured party is going to be more than a little miffed, and some people just don't deal with that well.
I'd suggest if there's a next time, you get divorced first and find the new partner after it's finalized.
2007-04-15 13:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can only get to you as much as you allow it but............If you have children here it goes!!!! Things will come out through your children. You'll never be rid of her if the kids act out for her. Things can flare for years through weddings, births of grandchildren. This happens because many times children are faced with loyalty issues. She could do better in time with things if she finds somebody and moves on with her life. If she remains stuck with herself she can remain a thorn in your side for years to come! The best thing you can do is be happy because she is counting on you to be miserable. She would like to see you fail in a new relationship because this will prove to others how terrible she has made you out to be. So don't give her the satisfaction of it. She has the choice to move on and be a better person from things. Divorce takes two and each is responsible for 50% of the problems that end it. Things happen to couples on many reasons........often we change and are different people from the way we used to know and feel about another person. Neither one of you were happy with each other so you did the right thing. No body should stay in a relationship at the expense of of another person. People sometimes just out grow each other and feel differently after many years. People always feel better if they can blame their failed marriages on the other person....or the other man. It makes it easier to not look at themselves and admit they were not perfect. Often ex's will continue to try to keep the stress going on because this is the way they can feel still connected with you.Like bad attention is better than no attention at all! Don't let her get to you......don't react let her fight with herself. Move on life is to short to remain miserable just because she chooses to be. Good Luck.
2007-04-15 12:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my ex 10 years ago, not for someone else, just because I didn't like him (among another 101 reasons.)
Our marriage lasted half as long as yours.
He admittedly stalked me for about 18 months. And he acted like a total freak for another three or four years after that.
It's now been 10 years.
Anyway, about four years ago he gave up his alternating between being a freak and trying to get me back.
She'll give up when she gets a life or realizes she's a freak.
Maybe you could set her up (without her knowing of course) with a date! Hurry the process on a bit.
Good luck
2007-04-15 12:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by kamcrash 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know. I know a number of people who met their current spouses while still married to other people. Not the best way to meet someone, but no judgements from me. We have all made decisions others don't understand. So back to your question, of the 6 people I know in this position all of their ex-spouses actively still hate them. The longest has been married over 30 years to his current wife. I think you just have to temper your frustration with empathy for your ex's heart. I am sure you had your reasons for what you did, but you have accept responsibility for hurting them. (yes, I know he or she hurt you too). But at least you are happy now and in a marriage that is working for you. I am assuming they are not. So don't let it effect you personally, but be patient for where they are at. Hey if they were perfect you would still be married to them...yes...
2007-04-15 12:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepless in Seattle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
accountable! I stew approximately what has handed off and complication and preplan what's forward. sometimes i don't comprehend what happens to the present day......i'm too busy leaping lower back and forth from the previous to the destiny
2016-10-03 01:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is worse than a scorned women! Maybe you should have ended your marriage first before hooking up with the new lady. I think if you apologize to your ex maybe she can begin to forgive you and heal. Maybe then she will let you go...
2007-04-15 12:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an A S S and all the hell you put her through is coming back on you...in triple doses...what measure you give you will get back.
2007-04-15 12:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's Been 4 yrs and he's still pissed off!! But i didn't cheat!!!!
2007-04-15 12:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by dez79837 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋