I would have put this in singles/dating, but it seems like only middle school and high school kids live on that page. So when you are looking for a real relationship, not just someone to date a few times. Also not necessarily marriage. What do you think is the best way. I am leary of the seak and destroy desperation method of internet sites and bars. I also realize someone is not going to just walk up to your door and introduce themselves. So how did you meet your true love? I am in my late 30's so looking for age appropriate advice
2007-04-15 11:49:34 · 11 answers · asked by Sleepless in Seattle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your perfect love is out there... Lots of times you may stress to much. You may just want it to much? But, know once you let that guard down...likely you will find someone who loves you for all that you are.
2007-04-15 11:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by B H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be the question on everyones mind these days. I have had many terrific relationships in my life and I have met men by every possible means I think!! The relationships that ended up being the best were the ones that evolved naturally. Someone who was in proximity of me while I was just showing up for my life. I personally think it's about the energy we put out there. When I am "open" to the possibility of meeting someone I pay attention to those around me and I make eye contact, smile etc. I have an inviting energy. When I am lost in my own world it's like I'm wearing a "do not disturb" sign. Hope this is somewhat helpful.
2007-04-15 12:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Reneejah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 and this is a debate I have with my girlfriends often. I have a couple of friends that don't really do much other than work, home, church and minimal social activities. I always ask them if they think this ideal man is just going to magically appear one day because they are not putting themselves in a position to meet a great guy.
I met my boyfriend online. We have been dating for sometime and are in a committed relationship. I met some weirdos online as well...and there are scam artist out there, but my boyfriends is as genuine and sweet as they come online or otherwise.
There is also something genuine about being online as well...think about it....there are millions out there looking for love....what I mean is that you know that when you meet someone and figure out that they are not a scam artist trying to exploit you...that they are are a person just like you....you can connect to them and take some comfort in knowing the possibilities of the relationship.
So, to answer your question, I believe you have to put yourself in a position to meet someone. You can't just sit at home and hope Mr. Right will magically appear.
2007-04-15 12:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Challenge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleepless in Seattle, I am going threw the same thing. I am 42 and recently single. Where do you go to meet people? I would love to find someone to date, leading to a relationship. I hate going to bars. I usually have to go by myself because all of my friends are married. My family was my life, until my ex decided that he was just not into me anymore, and the family life was not for him. We have 2 kids and were together for 14 years. I have tried Internet dating, but I just can't get myself to respond to any of the men on it. I would love to just run into someone, and click with them. Sometimes I just get so tired of the whole thing that even when the kids are with their dad I just want to stay in and watch movies. But it is like you said, no one is going to come to my door looking for me. It sucks being single at my age! I wish that I had a friend like you that is in the same boat as me. Well, good luck! You can e-mail me if you want to. You are on my contact list, just go to my profile if you want to talk.
2007-04-15 12:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it happened when I had my life where I wanted it, had my own interests, my own hobbies, my career where I loved my job. So in other words I wasnt looking for anyone to make me happy, I already was. As far as the online dating, thats how I met my Mrs. neither us were looking for anthing longterm, just wanted to go out and have fun, after about 3 yrs of that we looked at each other and said "OMG we are in a relationship."
2007-04-15 11:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really young i married young i was about 20 but i realized that the right person is right under your nose we went to hs together we were freinds not best or anyting like that we liked each other but thought nahh there not my type yata yata yata i dint have any guts then i randomly called him out of the blue we have been together for 3 years now most married couples these days fight so bad and dont make it that long but we rarely fight and we have a great life together and i know it will last
2007-04-15 11:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened when I least expected it. Actually I wasn't even interested in dating (I just got out of an abusive relationship). My neighbor wanted to introduce me to a friend of hers. I said no at first but she kept insisting so I figured I'd go along with it just to shut her up. And whe we finally met --- I was glad we did. He was too.
We've been married 12 years.
:-)
2007-04-15 11:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where i grew up we had corner bars and on weekends the bar had live music so that would bring people in that was not from around there.You would always be meeting someone different and that is how I met my husband.
2007-04-15 12:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have told me (and as advice for more things then you can imagine) "When you stop looking you will find what you are looking for." I so believe it because that is how EVERYTHING has happened in my life. Right down to getting that gorgeous truck parked in my driveway. :P (I stopped going to so many car lots and suddenly was provided information about a great vehicle, great condition, great price. :P)
Have a great night
2007-04-15 11:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum defiantly, happy you have chanced on somebody. It took me till ultimately i became into 40 to discover my actual love and that i genuinely did no longer anticipate it. i became into married (21years) and on the verge of being a grandmother as quickly as I met somebody 12 years my junior and the affection of my existence. we've been married for 7 years now and on the verge of being a grandmother back!! good success
2016-10-22 06:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋