Pennsylvania child custody cases?

Question

i have been on here before with this ,so far this is whats going on since my last post..last yr in may i sued for full support after only recieving 50a wk for 4 boys this has been going on since 96 when he walked out on us.i have had primary custody of our four boys since.he only took them every other weekend and holidays never called the boys during the week they would have to call him he wasnt in the picture much at all .i would call him to be more involved but i would always hear i am to busy.
well once i finally sued him for full support now he wants to take ours sons whom i raised on my own his big 50awk didnt do crap.i did everything for our sons docs,dentist,er when they were hurt ,took care of them when they were sick,stayed at the hospital with my son for his surgeries.went to schools to get my sons help.

now he wants to say i am unfit i dont drink i dont smoke i never did a drug in my life unless prescribe .i was and still am a full time mom..my sons are 17,15,13 oldest18

we have been to a modified hearin we were both ordered to pay for a home eval i paid he didnt he was held in contempt the court gave him 6months to pay this april is his 6 months he lost his job march 12th .

he has no beds nor bedrooms for his sons .

he is living with another women and her two children whom are a boy and a girl whom are sharing a bdrm and a handicapped women in the 3rd bdrm.
our boys sleep downstairs.

plus he gets his second wives kids at the same time so there are 10 ppl in a 3 bdrm home .my sons have everything they need here.

my sons never went without food,clothing,heat,shelter.

they had everything they ever needed nor wanted.

he has my sons a wreck telling them he already won the case they will be living with him ...

they dont want to live with him they dont even want anymore sleep overs

my 17 yr old school counsler told me the whole high school is behind me cause i show how much i care about my son and his education i am there constantly emailing the teachers and the counsler about getting help for my son i have done this for all my sons.

yes they do have hard times in school where i go over and collect homework and try to get them to get all the help they can where my ex says all they need is a foot in their ***.

all he knows is violence.

my son was acting out in school 2 yrs ago after his dad left his step mom i had to put our son in behavioral therapy and you know what my son is totally different.

my other son that is 17 talk to counselors thru the school and they contacted me and said my son has alot of anger toward his father for not being there his whole life...and he heard his dad call him a f'ing retard.

he also told both of our sons after they were badly injured from football that they were fakers my 15 yr old needed major knee surgery

reading im sorry.

i want to know do you all think he has a flying chance in hell to take my sons from me.

i have been with the same man since my ex walked out in 96 i lived on my own with my boys all the way up till aug of 2005 .

my fiance and i are getting married in 2008

he also walked out on his second wife and their kids together while she was 5 months pregnant plus had a two yr old son at home he went to a bar and never went home in dec of 2004 and moved in with this other women in dec of 2004

i know there is alot of reading im sorry.

i want to know do you all think he has a flying chance in hell to take my sons from me.

i have been with the same man since my ex walked out in 96 i lived on my own with my boys all the way up till aug of 2005 we bought a home together.

my fiance and i are getting married in 2008

he also walked out on his second wife and their kids together while she was 5 months pregnant plus had a two yr old son at home he went to a bar and never went home in dec of 2004 and moved in with this other women in dec of 2004

Answer 1

I'd just like to say you have provided a TON of evidence showing that this man is so bad and has done things like this in his past/future. So I want to first ask, WHY did you choose him to be the father of your FOUR kids?

Regardless, those boys are 50/50 of each of you and deserve the love of both of you aside from the fact that you don't get along. Thats in the 'best interest of the child'!

Answer 2

First of all, sorry your children's father is such a s**t.
Why are you waiting until 2008 to get married? You don't have to have this ceremony/wedding be such a big deal if you've been with the same man for years. I hope you aren't living with him; that's just my own opinion... I can't help but think that if you actually truly have plans to get married, it would make your home even more stable and give you more confidence. You seem to lack confidence and you seem to be facing this alone.
Very soon into your question, I saw that the reason your husband is suing for cusody is so he can save money and not pay child support. You sued for full support and this brought on this storm. Not that you were wrong. It's just that he knows if he has to comply with court orders, he can get away with much less. If he has the boys living with him, he can treat them like crap. Bottom line, he doesn't want to pay.
The complaints you have about him being involved are a lot murkier. On the one hand, you list all the complaints you have about how he was not involved enough. On the other hand, you give a lot of reasons why you don't think the kids benefit when they are with him. I wouldn't dwell on that argument too much - you sound schizophrenic when it comes to that issue. In fact, if he took them 'only' every other weekend and holidays, he is doing a lot more than some fathers. Sadly, there are children who go years without seeing a parent. This doesn't look so bad for him in a courtroom.
You are very emotional and rightly so about all of this. You've been a good mother - at the very least, a 'good enough' mother and that counts a lot. It will be hard to prove you are unfit unless you are leaving out some important facts. You most likely will be able to keep your kids but - here's an important fact - as much as it pains you and everyone else, your husband deserves his day in court.
Your anxiety comes from that basic mothering instinct and love that says the worse thing that could happen would be to lose your 'babies'. I can understand that. Keep to the straight and narrow, as you have been, keep calm, and try not to panic. The most realistic assurances will come from your lawyer - I hope you have a good lawyer whom you trust - every answer on Yahoo Answers will be supportive but a judge is going to listen to your lawyer, not Yahoo!

Answer 3

No way. He can threaten all he wantsto but he still has to prove and convince the Judge that youre an unfit mother which really is not easy to do despite what he says. From what Ive read he cant even prove hes the better parent. He cant show stability or any involvemnet in their lives so you have nothing to worry about here. If you have contact with him you can tell him that you plan to ask the judge once your awarded permanent custody for higher child support payments retroactive back to when he left. Your oldest is out of the custody picture now. You can also petition the Judge to let the kids decide for themselves who they want to live with. You have absolutely nothing to worry about here. See ya

Answer 4

Get a lawyer... a GOOD lawyer.

If your husband has it in his mind to prove you un-fit and take those kids from you... don't doubt that he'll pull out all the stops to accomplish this goal.

If your kids have had problems over the years... he will most surely say it's your fault. Kids didn't want to see him? Your fault again. Doesn't matter if it's true... this is what he will try to convince the judge is happening.

Be prepared for a big fight. Men like this are warped... they would rather put out big bucks now on a lawyer to fight this to save money down the line on child support and gain money by claiming the kids on taxes.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I can't imagine that you have anything to worry about. Why didn't you take the shmuck back to court for an increase in child support? $200 a month for 4 growing young men.......his $200.00 paid for school lunches MAYBE....I give my daughter $3.00 a day....

Good Luck to you and your upcoming court date. I am sure your children will let the judge know where they want to be!

Answer 6

if you tell the court what you did on here then i don't think he'll get custody of your children the 18 year old is considered an adult at least in my state