Do men look down on single women with kids?

Question

A few of my colleagues at work make fun of them for being on the losing side of a relationship. I told them that they shouldn't judge ladies like this.....they could be hurt themselves. Why this stereotype? It takes two to tango!

Yeah you are right Rio, a lady at work was pushed down a flight of stairs and broke her arm

Answer 1

I think it's great when men do that, because then I know to avoid them like the plague. My son is grown and out of the house, but when I hear a guy saying rude things about a woman, there's NO way I'm going out with him. Let the guys keep on making asses of themselves; we women do take note, and do tell each other about what we hear.

As for the sterotype - the double standard is alive and well; sooner or later, though, the clowns will wake up and find themselves - and generally, it will be alone.

Answer 2

Yes....some of them do....there are also men that don't....and I think you have it 100% correct....no-one should judge a single mother....or any single parent.......as for the comments that they choose to be single....or divorced....I'm divorced....yes I chose to be...the alternative was being beaten and raped by the man I married.....I live in Indiana....and Indiana is a no fault State....so it doesn't matter if he beats you half to death that cannot be brought into the divorce....although it does get you a protective order while he's out on bail......what about the woman who tells the guy shes dating shes pregnant and she never sees or hears from him again.....The ignorance from some people astound me....there are I am sure the few women who abuse welfare systems as there are men who do it too.....but don't generalize...they are not all the same.....most just want to keep their kids in a safe and non-violent household.....

Answer 3

It is wrong to judge someone based on nothing more than being a single parent but the odds are greatly in favor of the fact that most single mothers are such by choice.
Many unmarried women become mothers by choice (about 30-40%); The majority of divorced women with children chose to be divorced (about 85% of total divorces); A very small percentage of women were widowed (2%) and a slightly larger percentage than that were abandoned by the father of their children (no evidence exists that large numbers of fathers voluntarily abandon their children. No government or academic study has ever demonstrated such an epidemic, and those studies that have addressed the question directly have concluded otherwise. In the largest federally funded study ever conducted on the subject, psychologist Sanford Braver demonstrated that very few married fathers abandon their children).
There are good, decent single mothers but the odds are grossly in favor of personal problems involved in *why* they are single parents.

Answer 4

My Mom and Dad ggot divorced when I was three and I've seen alot of the stereptypes. I think they mostly come from a couple of bad seeds in the group and people are quick to make the assume that the entire group is that way. Also Hollywood tosses out some kind of single mother struggle movie every couple of months.

Answer 5

I wouldn't use the term "look down on" as much as I would use "look on with greater concern." I'm blaming the victim here, but a single mother with kids is much more likely to come with more baggage. It's a lot harder to tolerate the bad stuff that inevidably comes with children when they're not your own, and what about the Ex? Is he a jerk? Is he a louse? Does she still harbour a powerful, impactful wish that it could have worked out with him? I said I'd be blaming the victim here.

Answer 6

Single parents are incredibly unique individuals, women or men. We are the mothers and the fathers of our children and we are the sole earners for our household. There's not a day that goes by that I don't enjoy being a single parent and at the same time, there's not a day that goes by that I can't stand being a single parent.

If men or women look down on the other gender having children on their own they are just not worth the time.

Answer 7

People who stand around badmouthing anyone about anything are very immature. It is too bad that they can't find something more constructive to do with their time. Gossip always has been and always been hurtful and ugly.

I would always put in a good word. Try to raise the conversation to a higher level It may be you're throwing "pearls before swine", but who knows, maybe one of them will climb out of the mud. :-)))

Answer 8

Single moms do come with excess "baggage" to some men. Some men will tolerate the "baggage" for the sex for a while. Other men like me, embrace the children and enjoy being a good father to someone else's kids and raise them as their own. It just takes the right man.

Answer 9

Usually.

Answer 10

Exactly. Single mothers have a lot of stereotypes surrounding them — they're either selfish, money-hungry divorcées who care more about work than their kids or their husbands, or welfare queens who cheat the government. It doesn't occur to many people that not every single mom chooses to be that way. Some husbands died, others were abusive.