? for the men if your happy with your wife do you have to look at other women constantly?

Question

I know this sounds stupid. This is what I mean. I know there are alot of attractive women out there and I dont care if my husband takes notice. But he looks all the time when with me,computer,tv,even has mag. at work he looks at when he isnt busy. He told me all guys look at women all the time it has nothing to do with not being happy with their wives.I am married and have eyes to and I dont feel the need to look at guys all the time I might see a good looking guy but i dont say oh he is so hot look at his butt. We get into a argument over this alot. I look good not as good as I would like but I am doing something right because other men take notice not to brag I dont do anything to make them. Do any of you other men out there feel the need to always look. He knows it bothers me he teases me about my appearance sopmetimes and he has to rub it in my face when he sees another chick. I dont want to know his thoughts I already have an idea. Is it me is this why he looks all the time or is

this how all men are like he says. Have know problem wioth him looking but he does it to much and makes me wonder I ask him all the time if he is happy and he can have the bachelor life if he wants it nice wife huh but he says no. Is it normal do all guys look this much or is my husband being an selfish ******.

Answer 1

its not the looking thats the problem its how he makes comments to upset you while looking.

Its one thing to look at the menu and not order. Its another thing to insult the chef.

Answer 2

Your husband is very much being an ahole but he is right about one thing men look at women it's what they do and what they are good at. Look at some of the movie stars and how beautiful they are now look at their husbands what do they all have in common,they cheat or leave for another woman.I no that all little boys ain't raised that way so what happens to them while they grow up,well that's simple all they see is mommy and daddy not getting along and no kissing or hugs or laughing together.They grow up thinking marriage isn't a good thing but if they find the right woman that will make them happy and fun to be around so this makes them
think maybe I could have done better.All men think this but
most keep it to them self.Your husband has no business
commenting on another woman's legs or butt or anything else
that is just down right disrespectful to you and the other woman.Maybe you should start commenting on other men and their bodies see if he likes it.If that doesn't work and I don't think it will but just in case I would tell him if he says it one more time then you are going to cut him off.You are going to stick to your guns this will make him see you as a stronger woman and a little different .That is what they want something anything different where they can't keep there hands off you.

Answer 3

properly, i attempt to apply the "proverbs 31 woman" as my occasion, and that woman took care of her domicile...which secure working and offering for it. Being a spouse and mom is a superb element. so a techniques i'm purely a spouse, yet I honestly can not wait until eventually the day i'm able to upload mom to my record of titles. in spite of the undeniable fact that, I honestly have a factor-time pastime. it truly is something that i could do however if i develop into paid for it or no longer (pictures), so could besides usher in some greater funds to help take the countless load off my husband. some woman are completely content to easily run the better half and little ones and stay at domicile, a commendable determination if the husband and spouse the two comply with it. yet, i comprehend numerous couples the place the two companions have worked and their relationships have lasted a protracted time: my grandparents have been married fifty six years, my parents 29, aunt and uncle 32....it takes place. sure, I do think of a few women human beings have taken feminism too a techniques. yet, I additionally think of a few men have taken their loathing of feminism somewhat too a techniques besides. You and your spouse look happy in the lives which you lead: super.

Answer 4

Believe me, all men look. It's whether they follow through that matters. I catch my husband looking at other women, and especially younger women, all the time. I really don't think they can help it. I would say I'm attractive, I exercise and have a pretty hot body for being 36, and yet my husband still looks. It has nothing to do with you or me. That's the way they are. I guess you just have to learn to get over it. Although my husband doesn't make comments about other women's butts unless she's really hot. But usually at that point, I point them out to him, because some women really are very beautiful. Anyway, try not to let it bother you. Maybe have a conversation with him about how it bothers you when he talks about these other women and that you'd appreciate it if he wouldn't tease you about your appearance, but be supportive of you. I'm sure he's not the greatest looking guy in the world, and has his own physical faults. Maybe point out some hot guys to him that you find attractive. Anyway, it's probably just a matter of sitting and talking about the rules of the game. Make it clear what you want. But there's really nothing you can do about the looking. They all do it.

Answer 5

If he is just looking and not ever touching what is wrong with looking. You say you don't have a problem with this but posing the question is a big indicator that you have a very big problem with this and yahoo answers is not going to solve it for you. I am a woman and have been married for 19 years and have 2 children I have known my husband for 28 years. He was the biggest "slut" when we were teenagers. Very cute and the girls went wild for him. Now, we have always been faithful to eachother. He is a musician part time and girls and women give him their number but we laugh about it. 20 years later, 100 pounds heavier, balder, older, still crazy for eachother. He still looks and he may even imagine I am Beyonce, if his eyes are closed but who cares, he is with ME, and by the way when my eyes are closed he is Antonio Banderas!!! LOL
Get my point.
Don't fight with him, it is silly and you are giving him ammunition to be mean to you. Guys are mean, so are men, and brothers and Dad's, it is just their nature and women are too bloddy sensitive. Tease him back.

Good luck. and have some fun together. Do something silly.
Buy a crazy furry thong. Put the kids to bed early and see what happens. LOL

Good luck and God Bless

Answer 6

First of all, constantly looking at other women and making sure that you know about it-especially the way you describe it-is somewhat disrespectful.

Secondly, no. Men who are sexually satisfied at home, attracted to their wives and not just love their wives, but are "in love" with them don't feel the constant need to lust after other women.

EDIT:

I feel compelled to make a distinction between lusting and simply admiring feminine beauty or sexy women. That admiration and recognition of something beautiful will always be there. When I say "lusting" I'm talking about the gawking and the comments. That's rude and inappropriate.

Answer 7

They look for the same reason they look when that red corvette goes by, it is human nature for your eyes to drawn to things of beauty. My wife knows I look, she will actually point women out to me. Anyone that thinks their husband doesnt look when a pretty woman goes by is kidding themselves. By the way I am extemely happily married and can honestly tell you that under no circumstances do I want to touch another woman. But I'l keep looking till the day I die.

Answer 8

as long as all he is doing is looking then don't worry.thereis nothing wrong with it,where you should be peeved at is if he gawking while you are with him(restaurants or other public places thats just rude and disrespectful)look if he was an art lover and lets you where a Rembrant and he was admiring a Dali would it be so terrible.

Answer 9

Well if you are an aficionado of, well - lets say Picasso. Does it mean that you have to leave out Gauguin. If you like to read Robert Frost, should you omit Walt Whitman?

Answer 10

It's just human nature. The real problem is if or when he acts on it.