Do you think certain people have a greater capacity to love?

Question

Do you think that certain people have a greater capacity to love? Or at certain times in our lives, can we love more than at other times? For example, if you both put the same "effort" into it, can you love your children more than your friend loves his or her children? And when we are young, do we love less or more than when we are older and have gone through so much more in life? I know it has to do a great deal with our choices and the actual decision to love, but can some people actually love more than others who are trying just as hard?

Answer 1

I tend to base love on levels of trust. If a person is very trusting, to a fault even, then she will be prone to love easily. I am one of these people. So, say, if one mother trusts her children implicitly, or her husband, or her neighbor, then love comes unabashedly. There should be no trying; it just is. Trust opens a person, and when the opening occurs, the capacity for love increases. And it's true; if a person is raised with a lot of love, trust becomes innate. The more you are loved, the more you trust people. The more you trust, the more you love.

Answer 2

Everyone loves to different degrees. How much you love someone or even your own children depends on so many variables. Your upbringing-what's going on at the time etc.
I do, however believe that some people have a greater capacity to love-for whatever reason. Not sure if anyone can "try" to love, but I guess it's worth a try.
I'm extremely old. Have loved and lost so many times, I've lost track. Bottom line-I wouldnt have missed any of it for the world. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 3

How about this:

In the end, the love that you take is the same as the love you give

This really depends on a definition of love. You can harden yourself against it, or you can use it so much and love everything. You can't try to love, so if you just do, you do. If you have to try, you don't.

There is really no effort in love, only trying to prove that you love someone. And if you have to prove it, it's not really love.

I think everyone has the capacity, but maybe not the patience or the experience that makes love happen.

Answer 4

We all have the capacity to love .
There are those who are more loving than others ; and then there are those who only have the ability to love themselves..narcissism . You can learn to be more caring ; but you can not "try" to love at a greater capacity . Effort and love have little to do with each other . You make an effort to spend more time with someone ; but love happens . You don't schedule it like a beauty appointment , and it can't be put on a list of goals . It's there or it isn't . It would be impossible to measure your love for your child , with that of your neighbor , since you can't really measure love . Saying it doesn't make it so . An expert on love and loving- was Leo Buscaglia . It was impossible to watch / listen to one of his lectures and not feel affection for this man . For more on "love" , I recommend any one of his books . He was extraordinary .

Answer 5

I don't think it's a question of love so much as a question of displaying affection. I know my mother and father both love me to death. However, my father hugs me, kisses me and displays all kinds of love. My mother is not that affectionate. She's only displayed that kind of affection at times of extreme, such as when somebody dies, or when my son was born. It's not that she doesn't love me, it's that she doesn't show it.

That being said, I think that people who do not love themselves have a hard time loving others. I think people are bitter to the world around them because they're unhappy with thier own lives, but that is not to say, that once they find happiness within that they are not able to love just as much as the next person.

Answer 6

Hello dear!
My concept of love is similar to a spring! It is an internal issue; we love regardless of where it is going; our love is being born inside regardless of what and who is around!
Thus, according to our status of the moment we love more or less! Thus, People do have their own levels of love which are even changing with time!

Answer 7

People who are raised with love are more capable of it.Those who have loved and lost value it more.And some people seem incapable of love.Young people lose all control,your first is the most intense,but short-lived.As for me,she's the air I breathe...

Answer 8

Obviously all people are unique in their ability to get angry, control their anger, perform math, have common sense, love, avoid love, be selfish, selfless, etc...

So the simple answer is yes.

Answer 9

Love is an emotion and wouldn't require effort. I'm not sure what you mean by "love".

Answer 10

yes there are certain people whether by nature or by nurture that are just more nurturing and affectionate than others. It's the way some people just are.