2007-04-15 08:02:18 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No. Just tell her that your the boss and as long as she lives under your roof she has to listen to you.
2007-04-15 08:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
For all these people that are saying "she'll get over it" etc, you are WRONG!!
It might be a normal part of growing up, but it is still unacceptable! I know that growing up can be a real pain (I'm 14 and a half), and I've definitely acted immaturely and responded the same way your daughter has, but I was ALWAYS punished. If I rolled my eyes at my mother, or father, I'd be punished.
I'm not talking a slap or something, but I'd probably have a couple priveliges taken away. eg "For that attitude, you can't go see so-and-so." One of my dad's personal favourites - or so it seems - is to ban me from the computer/TV/mp3 player for whatever amount of time. I'd be banned from TV and computer for a day or two for rolling my eyes and saying 'whatever'.
Both parents are fairly easygoing, my dad especially so (I don't live with my mum). But in my household, whoever I was living with, I was always taught that acting that way is rude and disrespectful. Needless to say I don't use that kind of behaviour with my parents or with anyone. You are the parent - tell her off the next time she does it - "Stop with the attitude," etc - but if she keeps being disrespectful, take it up a notch. Take a privelige away or something.
I don't know you and I don't know your daughter, and I'm certainly not saying you should condemn her. But if you're unhappy with how she acts towards you, make a change about it. You are the rule enforcer - if you want her chores done, don't do them for her, make her do it. It doesn't matter how she feels about it. No one likes having to do undesirable things... but it's a part of life, and I promise it'll make her a better person if she understands that fact.
2007-04-15 11:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Astrid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. At 12 years old, many kids get this notion that they need to be completely independent, when they obviously still need their parents' guidance. You should not tolerate it. She lives under your roof and therefore is required to follow your rules. That's only fair.
Tell your daughter firmly, "I am the boss of this house. You need to use your manners and treat me respectfully. If you can't do that, I will [your consequence]." Some helpful consequences are loss of priveleges, grounding, not paying her allowance (if she receives allowance) or giving her extra chores. Follow through with what you say and mean everything that you say. Be consistent.
Tell her that whenever she says 'whatever' in a rude manner to you, she will receive an extra chore or a loss of a privelege. You haven't done anything to deserve this. You cannot let your daughter run YOUR household. Take charge!
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-04-15 09:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes not doing what you tell her and you just ignore it, it will get worse. You will be letting her walk all over you and she'll think it just fine with you. Tell her that if this behavior continues you will take the appropriate actions which should be some sort of punishment. No physical or verbal abuse of course, just take her computer privileges away or don't let her go out when she wants too. Grounding always worked for me because it gave me time to think about how much of a brat I was being. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-04-15 08:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by wildcat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say no. For some reason she doesn't feel the need to respect you (personal opinion). It's not ok for her to do that. I would talk to her and remind her that you are not asking her to do things to be mean to her or to take away her own independence of deciding to do things on her own. Somehow by talking and leveling with her (as if she's another adult) you should try and build mutual respect for things that need to be done in the house. Maybe ask her if she would like to do something else you were going to do, and you'll do what she's been asked to do, or maybe she'd like to do the task together with you? But I wouldn't let her out of doing something, she does still have to obey your requests.
Hope that helped?
2007-04-15 08:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by nailcikcia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that she isn't respecting you. When you two have both calmed down and you aren't fighting. I would sit down and talk with her. I would ask her why she does that. Is there a reason that she isn't showing respect? I would tell her how you feel when she does this. Showing her that you have respect for her will open the door to her showing respect for you. Getting upset when she does this will only add to her disrespect.
2007-04-15 09:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom if you don't do something about this now it will get worse. That is why God made wood, so we can make paddles to use on our children's behinds when they are like this. Rolling her eyes and telling you whatever is disrespectful and needs to have consequences. Do something or when she is 15 you won't be able to control her at all.
2007-04-15 09:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. If she starts to be disrespectful at that age, then it will just continue on later in life. Every 12 year old goes through some type of this stage, especially girls.
2007-04-15 08:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sharpie211 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you dont ignore it, whether she complies with what you tell her to do or not, she has no right to be disrespectful of you in that way. And if she does that to you then she also has problems with other authority figures and that can lead to real problems as she enters adulthood. You need to scare the piss out of her ONE time, as in, the next time she does that, and let her know that that will never happen again. Don't be passive, that form of parenting has already been shown to be a failure.
2007-04-15 08:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone does it. I did it. But it's still not right. tell her htat if she keeps doing that, you'll take away some of her prized possesions. if that doesn't work, teach her this lesson. if she asks u a question, roll you eyes and say whatever and see how she likes it.
2007-04-15 08:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe when she asks you to do something you can say whatever back to her.
Whatever I thought my answer was good but like whatever I guess thats for you to decide.
Mom can you bring me my cup of water?
Mom Replys: Whatever
Mom when you go to work today can you drop this off for me?
Mom Replys: Whatever
Hey mom can you hand me my pen
Mom Replys: Whatever
Mom I need you to help me on this homework
Mom Replys: Whatever
Maybe Then she'll get the point thats its disrespectful...Just maybe...
2007-04-15 08:49:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋