I am a guy who has a female friend who is a coworker. I became friends with her over the past two years or so. I felt like I could talk to her about things. She has a strong personality and has gone through a lot of hardships in life. Over the past month or so, I noticed a change in her attitude toward me. She started to put me down and call me names. I asked her why she was doing that and she said that I was being annoying. I do have some personality traits that are kind of weird, but she has become mean to me when she wasn't like that before. Everytime I would say something to her, she would snap back at me with criticism, usually in a group setting. She was a lot nicer to me when she talked to me alone, but she is hurting my feelings. Why would her demeanor toward me just change like that?
2007-04-15 07:49:14 · 14 answers · asked by iridealone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good question. I think maybe you might have said something that you may have thought was funny, and at the time she just played it off like it was too. It is hard to tell with girls. She could be mad at her other friend, her family, her boss and just taking it out on you. Yeah, I know, that isnt what friends are suppose to do but sometimes we cant help it. Mostly I think it has something to do with you more than the other people I mentioned. That is only because it sounds to me like she is still acting like that, but if it was just an anger thing she need to take out on you, it would be over by now. You really need to think about what you say and how you say it. Friends are understanding but when you hit a touchy subject and dont think anything about it, they assume you know how they feel about it sometimes and when you dont they still hold it against you.
There is a lot of maybe's in the kind of situation. She also might be jealous of you at work. She might have feelings for you and you dont think about her that way. Who knows? Well she does.... so tak to her about it. Make sure you put some feeling into it or she'll feel like you are just talking. Good luck :)
2007-04-15 08:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman can be tricky, I know I am one of them. Usually when a woman changes her attitued toward you, it means she just isn't into you anymore, whether as a friend or more. Don't worry, this is usually a weird and immature phase and she is probably going through some other hardship right now and is taking it out on you, not mature enough to try to explain it to you like an adult. Give her some space and try to get to know other people in your workplace. You deserve to be treated much better, and I bet you there are plenty of females at your workplace that would want to be you friend. Trust me, your sudden distance and maturity towards the situation will have her crawling right back to you cause most women like me want what we can't have even if we've already had it. LOL. Good luck!
2007-04-15 07:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Treser 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have done something to cause her to have contempt for you, as women often do toward men.
Why don't you ask her directly? You probably just need to stay away from her - this is her way of saying to get lost. If there's really an honest friendship, she would then come over and ask you why you've stayed away. I doubt that would happen.
2007-04-15 07:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is undergoing emotional strain and can't deal with other people right now. Especially if she puts up a front, that means there is a lot of stress going oln in her life. Give her space, don't cling to her or keep asking what's wrong why are you being this way. She probably doesn't even know. She just needs to breathe.
2007-04-15 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm, maybe she is self centered and narcissistic and thinks she's being cordial, Gracious and nice by talking to a lower being such as you but does not want other people to find our... Orrrr, maybe in some strange way she has a crush on you.
2016-04-01 02:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that she would like something more than friendship and you've missed the signals? Sometimes when we lean on someone while going through a rough time, we tend to develop a kind of emotional attachment, even if we don't mean to You need to sit down and discuss this with her.
2007-04-15 08:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lyz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She probably has had other people who don't like you say bad shyt about you and now she's believing them and now thinks it's funny to critize you. Just forget about her, she's not really a friend if she does those things to you. To be honest, she may have just been nice to you because she felt sorry for you but you don't have to put up with that, find female friends who like you for you.
2007-04-15 08:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude the problem is that she is interested in you... Something more than a friend... So step up to the plate and let her know if you like her as a friend or something else could happen... EFIL
2007-04-15 07:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's PMS? Dude, perhaps you are annoying and you can't take a HINT!!! Leave the chick alone! She's trying to get rid of you. Stop embarassing yourself.
2007-04-15 07:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she got a look at real u. go look in the mirror and pull trigger.
2007-04-16 14:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by marlyn31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋