Last week I got engaged and my fiance' gave me a beautiful ring (I thought). Yesterday I had my ring appraised so I could add it to my homeowners policy....................
I found out that my 3 kt diamond is a cubic zorkonia worth $19.95.
What shall I do?
2007-04-15 07:29:38 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am devastated just reading that and I got tons of thumbs down for telling this lady to get her pearl necklace appraised which was a gift from her hubby....
~ You need to talk to him because that is dishonest. If you have never did what you did, you would have never known. His motto for life should be "what she doesnt know wont hurt her " It makes me worry because he should have told you... I mean you two should not have any secrets or lies. The trust is now probably breeched. On the other hand, Obviously, he loves you, he wants to be with you. What are his finances looking like? This could be a contributing factor(hopefully, so because this is forgiveable). I just think you two need to sit down and have a serious talk and not because of a cheap ring but more so for pawning it off as if it were not. Then after you talk to him, talk to you. Ask yourself many questions because if he lies about this, then what else. A ring is something so silly to lie about. Beaware of people who lie once, they may do it again. Good Luck in your Life and whatever you choose, I hope you find Honesty*
2007-04-15 07:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you know how much a good 3 kt diamond costs right? And you know his income and financial situation. So
was it really that big of a surprise that a rock that large was a less precious stone than diamond?
You should mention to him that you went to have it appraised
and that is what they told you. And just to be sweet you should add that you just hope he didn't get swindled on the deal and that the most important thing really is that you two are(or were) in love and want to be with each other in a lifelong commitment.
If he was bragging about how much he spent or the amazing ring he'll feel bad. However if he really could not afford an expensive ring and you let it be known that you wanted a big rock then he had a lot of pressure on him to come up with something.
However if he did this trying to be tricky and wanted people to think he spent a lot of money, well that isn't to smart, things like this always get discovered. And do remember, people make mistakes when they are young, we don't always make the best choices. But I'll bet all he wanted was for you to have a big ring your could show off to your family and friends. Now it's back fired and he should have simply gotten you something tiny and just said this is the best I can afford. Then you'd have to explain to everyone how you landed a guy who could only afford to buy you a diamond the size of a pin point.
He should have been open and honest, and you can reassure him that as long as you two love each other this won't matter, just don't try to be sneaky, that will spoil romance everytime!
Let him off the hook, for all you know he has plans to buy you a sweet ring when he gets some funds together.
Talk it out, it's not about the ring, it's about Love:)))
You don't have to tell anyone anything, just that it's the ring your fiance bought you, nothing more.
(don't forget, he could have been scammed, and you may even want to get a second appraisal, there are a lot of tricks that can be played on trusting diamond ring buyers!)
2007-04-15 07:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry but what ever happened to "it is the thought that counts?" Maybe the engagement ring is only 20 bucks because the actual wedding ring is a wedding pair worth $10 mil. You never know. Maybe he is testing you??? Just remember it's not always about cost, it's about happiness. Obviously you couldn't tell by looking at it, that it wasn't really a diamond ring. Is it gold? will it turn your finger green? Maybe it's a temporary thing?
Women??? COST = Beauty???? I don't get it
It was the most beautiful ring in the word until she knew what it cost then it looked like a gum-wrapper? HMMMM
and pardon me, but where does it ever say he lied about it?
2007-04-15 07:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kythrol 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're engagement ring is the one gift he buys you that should be valuable. I'm all for it's the thought that counts for other things. But something that is going to be on your finger day and night for the rest of your life need to be worth something. Even if it takes all year to save, you will remember the effort and hard work he went through to get you this precious stone. It's worth reflects your worth!
2007-04-15 07:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be so harsh yet get a grip!!!. No female is worth you getting into your knees and being completely devastated there will be yet another super female which you will choose you plenty and she or he would be in a position to no longer have a BF. This female is being truthful and telling you she has a BF earlier you get into deep and phone her cheating. a minimum of she is being authentic from the get bypass. in case you pursue her she would be in a position to no longer basically think of your a stalker yet a looser to boot. circulate on gracefully cos you may no longer substitute the reality she is with somebody else. You by no ability understand she would at some point injury it off with him and she or he would be in a position to recollect you and perchance you may occasion then yet on condition which you stay cool and accepting.
2016-11-24 20:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw hell naw girl!!!!! No he didnt do you like that?!!!!!!Oh my GOD!!!! Girl if it were me he and that ring would be gone.....I dont wanna hear about its the thought counts and all that crap, If he can afford to get you a nice REAL ring then thats what he needs to give you, I cant believe that girl!!!! Im pissed off and hes not even my fiancee, Just the simple fact the he thought that the ring would be good enough for someone he says he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with.......But You know what, I bet he didnt count on you going to get it appraised, U are smarter than he thinks, GOOD GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-15 07:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by KATRINA A 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you thought it was beautiful BEFORE you had it appraised and now that it is almost worthless then you should rethink how you feel for him, maybe he cannot afford to get you a 'real' ring right now. I am sorry you are so disappointed, but at least he gave you a beautiful looking ring. =)
2007-04-15 07:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's a part of me saying that he obviously wanted to give you a three-carat diamond but was unable to afford one, and therefore "it's the thought that counts".
But, in reality, he misrepresented himself with that ring.
I feel that you should talk with him about it before making any decisions. If he becomes angry or any other strong emotion, then perhaps a life with him would be one filled with incidents such as this.
Best luck.
2007-04-15 07:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh jeez ..thats a tuff one! okay so you don't want to obviously come off as being rude to your fiance' what u can tell him is that you want to get it cleaned or something like that but u need a copy of the receipt or ask him what jewellery store he purchased it from ... then go from there! see how he reacts..maybe that ring is just for now?? maybe he can't really afford the real one as yet?? good luck! oh yeah congrats
2007-04-15 07:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have thought you wouldn't go and have it appraised. What can you do? Ask him why he felt the need to give you a fake and not tell you. He is already lying, trying to be sly, and deceiving. Do not let him get away with this.
2007-04-15 07:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋