I am 7 months pregnant with a man I have been with for two years. He is 33 and says he never wants to get married and loves me but "is not in love with me." He says at some point after the baby is born, I will need to move out and on with my life, but he will always be there for us, be in our lives and love us. Has anyone else been through something similar, what was the outcome, and is there any chance that once our baby comes that he will have a different outlook on things? He just says he loves his freedom too much to ever get married- could the baby change this? Thanks for your oppinions and experiences. I'm just in a difficult place right now and could use the advice.
2007-04-15 06:27:43 · 4 answers · asked by annej 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it is in your best interst to leave now. Don't put yourself though the stress of that situation. You desirve so much more and so dose your baby. Cause that man should have thought about that before he got you pregnant or had you move in with him. He is just scared. I wish you and your child all the luck and hope it all works out for you.
2007-04-15 07:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should prepare yourself for the worst and do something about it now, rather than waiting until you have given birth. If you need to move out, do so now and get yourself familiarized with new surrounding, get used to not having him around. Moving out with a new baby in tow is too stressful by far. If he can be so callous as to tell you to pack up your things after the baby is born, why wait? That is irresponsible and an uncaring attitude towards you and the baby.
Let him live his life and live yours. You have a baby to think of now.
I know this is hard but, it is better for all concerned, rather than hoping that maybe, someday he will change his mind.
Anyways, if everything works out for the better and he decides that he can't live without you after all, then all the better. People tend not to appreciate things it's gone.
But don't put everything on hold based on a flimsy chance he'll realize he wants both you and the baby.
Move on. Right now.
2007-04-15 13:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by boohoo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a baby will have a miraculous effect on this man. in this situation, a baby is more likely to complicate matters (not in a positive way) from the sound of it he's already decided he doesn't want to be with you in any kind of serious relationship. Don't hold your breath or waste your time waiting and hoping for him to change--move on as soon as possible, you've spent enough time together for him to become attatched to you if its possible for him to, maybe he'll realize he wants you more than he thought after he's spent some time without you or believes he's lost you. I think puting any pressure on him is bound to drive him even further away. at this time in his life. Best figure out how to get along without him-- you'll be more attractive to this man (in fact more attractive in general) the more independent you are.You're going to be a single mom very soon and will need to be independent. You may not have a future together with this man but there are other men out there. you don't have to stay single forever .
2007-04-15 13:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you he didn't want to get married before you got pregnant? He sounds like he has his mind made up, and nothing, not even the baby or anything you try to guilt him into is going to change that. Maybe you should move out and distance yourself from him before you have the child.
2007-04-15 13:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋