Everytime i try to talk to my mom about him she just says she doesnt want to hear it. He is really sweet and he wants my mom to like him. He is my age, but sort of has a trouble maker reputation. I am only 14 and i know that is kind of young, but i really like him and want my moms approval. Is there anything i could say to try to get her to listen to me?
2007-04-15 06:14:56 · 23 answers · asked by karina 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well if she dont like him she not the one dating him
2007-04-18 14:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by kuchickaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age 14 you can't to much blame your mother for the way that she feels. I know you don't want to hear it but 14 is much to young to have a boyfriend in my opinion. If you really like him and want her approval try backing off a little bit. Get to know the young man and maybe when you turn 15 and if you two still are b/f g/f maybe she'll accept him. Give her some time to get use to the idea of you liking boys now. In time I'm sure it will work out for you.
2007-04-15 06:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure you understand that she is just trying to look out for you and that's good. Tell her that it's really been bothering you and that you want to talk about it. 14 really is a little young and I'm hoping that you two aren't getting too serious too fast but that's not my place to say. Sit down with her and ask her what is it she doesn't like about him? You assume it's because of his reputation but for all you know she could have a completely different reason. If it is the reputation just explain to her that people change and that he really wants her to accept him. Good luck.
2007-04-15 06:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well my mom doesn't like the fact that i have started going out and i have a boyfriend now and i'm 15 and my boyfriend is also 15. we've been goin out for a year now. my boyfriend also wants to know my mother better but my doesn't aproveof our relationship. she hasn't said it in many words but i already get the point. i don't like to go against my mother but in this case i am and we've told ourselves that if we ever break up it will be for any other reason but it will have nothing to do with my mother. so guess we're kinda in the same situation . so i know exactly how you feel. my boyfriend also has a trouble maker reputation but my mother doesn't really know or care for that matter, she just doesn't want me to have a boyfriend. she sometimes brings it up when we get into an argument, esp since we moved from SA to NY and i don't like very much here. she says i just want to go back to my boyfriend.... if you really like this guy then carry on just like did. she can't stop your feelings. i gues mothers worry too much about us girls when it comes to BFs esp at this age.
2007-04-15 09:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely not.. you bringing home a boy friend just reminds her your not a little girl anymore and she doesn't want to give you the talk about the birds and the bees.. nor does she want to take you to the doctor to get the birth control pills. So you having a boyfriend will really complicate her life. Just go out with him until you find someone else maybe when your 16 she will be more receptive.
2007-04-15 06:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age may be part of the problem. You are very young to have a boyfriend. Maybe if you just be friends with this guy and not having it be a real boyfriend. girlfriend situation, your mother will be more agreeable to it. She is probably just wanting to protect you and not let anything bad happen to you, like becoming a mother yourself.
Later on, as you get older, you can evolve your relationship into something more.
2007-04-15 06:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that first of you being a freshman and him being a senior makes your age very close to illegal. Your mother has no choice but to worry. Just cause you feel like you old enough and wont fall under peer pressure we all thought that, your mom has been through high school to and most likely she made the same decisions all of us do and no matter what shes going to know youll make the same. She will always worry, I would take some time and let it blow over dont try to hang outside of school hang inside of school and your mom will see that your responsible
2016-05-20 22:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think 14 is to young to have a boyfriend. as long as it isnt sexual in anyway i dont see a problem with it. i had a serious boyfriend at 14, and my parents shaparoned everything we did to make sure nothing inapropriate was happening.
but as to what to do i think saying mom i really need to talk to you...then be like mom, i know you object to my relationship, i would like to know why, and to see if their is a basis for your concern so that i might consider the same reason. then talk to her about how much you like him dispite the fact she doesnt. never yell, say everything in an even pleasant tone. beleive it or not talking like that gives you more respect than yelling back and forth does trust me. i have used this method with my mom on many occasions. she is likely to take you more seriously if your even headed about it. then when she is ready you can talk about compromise
2007-04-15 06:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 14 i was with this guy who i liked a lot, he had a very bad reputation and no matter what i said she wouldn't listen. she said he was bad and i could get hurt. i didn't listen to her and surly 4 months later something did happen. which goes to show parents always know whats best. just listen to your mom. if i was able to go back i would have listened to her.
2007-04-15 06:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just remember your mom just wants to know what's best for you, but first you need to find out what she doesn't really like about him. Tell her we really need to talk about this, I mean it's pointless to not like my boyfriend if you can't even explain why.
If she tells then tell her the truth like say she thinks he drinks too much, just for example. Just say back what the REAL truth is and maybe it'll change your mom's opinion completely. I mean that's what we'd all like to know the real truth about things. Just remember, you're only 14, and it's not like your going to marry this guy right off the bat.
2007-04-15 06:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Robyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either write her a letter, an email, or make her sit down and talk to her. Explain your feelings, and tell her at least your not just going out and having sex with the boy, instead of just wanting to date, and spend time with him. Tell her at her age, she probably did the same thing and make sure its clear to her that you really want to be with this guy. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
2007-04-15 08:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋