You know when they say "be yourself"? How can I find myself?

Question

Wow, some of your articles i read made me cry

Answer 1

I equate finding yourself to getting dressed...you try things on to see what fits...what feels good...what is comfortable...what best compliments the physical form you have been given. You have to try on the different aspects of yourself to see what fits. People are multi-faceted, like diamonds...it is a daunting task to try to find your place, but it is well worth it...and in the end, you will find that you have BECOME a diamond.

Seek and expend truth and equality in your heart and mind and you will tap your soul. Do and be what is right for YOU and no one else, and you will be a gift to all the world...you already are.

ps...answering this question gives me 9,455 points for a purpose that I created.

Answer 2

Finding yourself is a process that takes time. A place to start is what things do you like to do? What things when you do them make you feel good and satisfied? Do you ever get tired of doing them? Start with these.
Be aware that who you are will change over time as your understanding of yourself deepens with experience. Also be aware that the path to yourself can sometimes go through who you are not. Indeed we sometimes learn more by doing things that are not "us" than by being ourselves. When you find yourself in that situation, stop and change directions. Forgive yourself and move on.
An indication of if you are in tune with yourself is how you feel and how your life is going. If everyday is a struggle and you constantly hit dead ends, it could be your soul trying to tell you you are headed in the wrong direction. When you finally get on the right path, things will start happening for you and your attitude and life improve dramatically. This is your soul saying "Its about time! Now hit the gas!!"

Answer 3

The biggest tool in finding out who you really are is to learn to conquer fear.The fear of standing alone ,of being different, of going against the majority. Differences in people are beautiful. Our differences mean that we have something to offer one another, to contribute.
One of the other answers said to do some soul searching which is very true but you have to teach yourself to act on what you find there.
Example: you and some friends are chatting on the corner of the street.There is a handicapped person trying to open the door to the building in front of you , but having trouble. Someone in your group makes a comment and everyone laughs but you don't think it's funny, it makes you feel bad for that person so you leave the group for a moment , walk over and help the handicapped person get inside.
Being yourself just means being true to your own thoughts and feelings and not being afraid to express and act on them.
I'm sure you will find you have much to contribute : )
Just relax , have fun and pay attention to that feeling in the pit of your stomach .... it's all food for the soul.

Answer 4

The only way to truly find yourself is to be very curious to what yourself is. We think our self is "Me"...made up of my past, my memories, what I want to do with my future, etc. If we really think about all of that, we may realize that "I" have been conditioned from birth. My parents or gaurdian taught me how to act (according to their belief system), my teachers taught me about what is important to know (once gain, according to what they thought was important)...I learned from my peer group....In fact, if you take a close look, you have been 'programmed' since birth to be who you are today! I know, scary!

To find the 'real you' requires returning to the simple you...that life that walks around with you when not being churned up by thoughts. Thought comes from our programming and keeps an ongoing drama on the stage most of the time! The real you is the empty stage! All kinds of dramas are played out on that stage...comedies, romance stories, horror stories, etc. but you stay the same...empty stage waiting for the next scenario to appear.

The fact that we fall, hook line and sinker, for the story unfolding on the stage is why we suffer. So, find yourself by not taking the drama so seriously and return often to the knowing that you are the stage and not the drama on the stage.

I know this sounds wildly nutty...sorry about that, but these 'hard questions' are not easy to talk about. Words are so inadequate. But we keep trying. :-)

Answer 5

I don't think you ever will, we are all in a process of becoming and can never truly "be ourselves."
When people say be yourself they generally mean don't try so hard to please the other person. You know, don't say stuff just because you think that is what they want to hear. We all have our own interests and goals, that is closest thing to "ourselves" that we know. Don't feign interest in something you abhor just to get a brownie point with someone.

I think the saying should be "Don't be someone else."

Answer 6

Get your Horoscope done by a competent certified astrologer. You can find one in the magazine: "The Mountain Astrologer". But watch out, there are many fakes out there. A good astrologer will record their reading of your horoscope while delivering it to you by phone then mail you the tape. It helps if you study astrology too because its ongoing with progressions and transits.

Answer 7

What movies do you like, but don't like to admit because your friends dont like it? And music. Where would you shop if your friends didn't think it was uncool? Do you like to dance and sing? Do you love math? Do you like art? think of these things to get a basic starter of who you are.
Also, do you read people very well, are you a hopeless romantic, are your religious or spiritual.
Many people don't know who they are, I can't even completely explain who I am. Don't worry about it, just do what you like, what makes you happy.

Answer 8

To be one thing, I must first know what I am not:

Try to get to your 'Original Self'. Who were you before you learned how NOT to fit in, who were you before you lea rd that you're ugly/cute, or any other label that others have placed on you...

I have a meditation I use where I say to my self : These are my hands, I am not my hand, I own them so they are not ME. These are my feet, I am not my feet, I own them, so they are not ME. These are my legs, I am not my legs, I own them, so they are not Me. (continue this throwout your whole body), then try it with your name, you are not your name, you beliefs, you history, your job...on & on. And what you realy are will come to, eventully.

Answer 9

"Even when everything seems right why does the tear comes out at night"

You can find yourself in lonelyness and in a silence where the only thing you can hear is your heartbeat and your breathing.

"It's not who you are it's what you do that defines you"

Answer 10

i dont feel you "find yourself", but that you create yourself,,,,,, by living, learning, deciding how you feel and the type person you wish to be,,,,,, you are constantly changing, the self you are today will not be the same as next year, perhaps even next month,,,,,,,,, as you gather certain things and ways to you, and discard others,, you will become a self that is more geared to specific ways,,,,,,, that is how you reveal who you are,, to yourself,,,,,,