My Girlfriend and i had planned to go on holiday in october to Thailand. Neither of us are very good savers, and now with 6 months to go we realise that we probably can't afford it this year.
We have a lot of debts anyway and can barely afford to get by, and in order to pay for flights we're going to have to save up as we have no other way of paying for it. but going to Thailand is something that she has always wanted to do, and is extremely disappointed by the thought of not being able to go this year and now has nothing to look forward to.
How can i show her that we can still look forward to going to thailand, but we're just going to have to put it back a bit. I'm disappointed myself, but you have to look at it from a realistic point of view, how can i explain this to her without her thinking that im putting a dampener on the situation/bursting her bubble? help!
2007-04-15 05:02:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She needs to grow up and realize if the money isn't there, the money isn't there. It's okay to be disappointed, but that should encourage her to do whatever is needed to ensure the trip can be made in the future...save more money, get a 2nd job, sell something, invest, etc. Whatever it takes.
If we want something badly enough, we can typically find a (legal) way to get it...moping over not getting it when we want it, accomplishes nothing.
Help her to know you two will set your sites on going at a later date, and discuss ways the two of you can raise/save the money to make it happen.
2007-04-15 05:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you lie and say that because of a driving conviction you had a few years ago (or fare dodging or something) that you have to wait 5 years before going to Thailand - otherwise they could turn you back at the airport.
Use the time this buys you to clear your debts, get a proper job, and/or learn to lower your (and her) expectations about the type of lifestyle you can afford to lead.
2007-04-15 05:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 13:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's so dissapointed! my heart bleeds, if ya have'nt got the money ya can't go, paying the debts off should be an incentive. life is full of disapointments,she sounds a bit spoilt to me
2007-04-15 06:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by cid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have debts and can't afford to pay, tell her to get a life and get her priorities right....like you say, you can go when you can afford the trip.
2007-04-15 05:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have to explain it to her. She should be mature enough to control her money and realize that there is not enough to go. If you have explain to her, then she's too immature to be with anyway.
2007-04-15 05:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋