can't carry a light hearted conversation with people anymore?

Question

I am upset because it seems that every light hearted conversation with friends will either run into a dead end or turn into something serious.
Any tips on letting conversations flow instead of that? I think my problem is I am too logical a person so I can't help it but analyse everything even something funny whether it is logical it should happen. I am too factual. Help

It didn't used to be like this. I used to be the one who talk nonsense all the time in class

Answer 1

I don't know how old you are, I am 63 and I have that problem also. One thing I have started doing is listen more.Since my 2 cents worth always runs in the serious vein.
I finally realized Silent and Listen have the same letters.

Answer 2

Light hearted conversations aka small talk dead ends lots of times. When you are not discussing anything that matters it's okay if the conversation dies out. Remember, if you keep talking it won't die. Think of other things to talk about. Tell the person a story from your day.

Plus, as long as it doesn't feel like an awkward silence, the silence is okay. Sometimes when I'm chatting with my friends on the phone, we'll just sit there in silence for minutes at a time and it's okay.

Don't worry about it too much.

Answer 3

You used to be the one who talked nonsense now you're too logical and analytical. This just means you're growing up and starting to question things. There's nothing wrong with that. It's good to question. It means you're a thinker. I understand this might get in the way of having a good time with your friends. Don't stop questioning and analyzing but do put things in perspective. If a subject comes up where you and your friends disagree, state your opinion and listen to theirs and agree to disagree if that's where things are. Accept that not everyone will see things the same way you do.

Take the temperature of the crowd. If you sense people are starting to get uncomfortable about things you're saying, stop and change the subject. Put yourself in their place. If they just want to hang out and have silly fun, there is a place for that and you should honor that. There is a time and a place for everything.

You may, over time, find that certain people start to fall away because they can't keep up with you. That's OK too. Sometimes people are in our lives for only a short period of time. We all learn from each other and it may be the time has come for you both to move on. You will find new people who are more attuned to what you believe and in time, they may fall away only to be replaced by a new set. It's a life cycle.

Just relax and have fun but don't stop questioning and having your own opinion. I admire you. Just continue to be who you are.

Answer 4

Talking nonsense doesn't appeal to everyone, you know. Perhaps you need to find some friends who LIKE to talk about serious matters. Tips on letting conversations flow... Well, your mind set is currently one of detection - you are trying to ferret out the truth. Perhaps you could focus your mind on discovering other people's opinions or feelings, instead. That can be very interesting.

Answer 5

Just chat about stuff like
>Whats on tv, what you like dislike, but don't get to involved
>where did you buy that lipstick/t-shirt from it's nice! i like that style because...
>i am going on holiday to _______ in the summer are you going anywhere? I like hot/cold places because

Simple stuff can brew up interesting and flowing conversations and they can end up anywhere you take them too!

Answer 6

Ask questions and don't intterupt em. There are two types of questions. Open ended and closed ended. Closed ended are more or less "yes/no" answers. Open ended questions allow expression. i.e. what do you think of.... or what are your thoughts on...?
They lend themsselves to conversation much better than closed ended questions. You also learn more.