How are you making the most out of your life, knowing that one day you will be dead?

Question

The reason Im asking is that ive never been so happy as I am before but then I get sad when I think it will all end one day so I must make the most of it. On Tueday I went to my mates funeral he was 1 year younger than me and I sat there at the crem not knowing if we should celebrate his life or morn his death and this has made me think?

And before you ask, no I havent got postnatal deppression, thought I do think when looking at a beautiful baby does put life into perspective.

Answer 1

You are not alone. This type of reality comes to most people sooner or later.I've been feeling the same way you do. Happier than I've ever been in my entire life and yet my thoughts drift off to the day I just won't be here anymore. Although sometimes it just makes me cry with sadness , many good things have come of it. It has heightened my awareness in an amazing way. I'm seeing things so much differently , noticing the details of my surroundings and people in my life.My values have changed, things that don't matter really don't matter.I have become more attentive to those that are close and always make a point to show them what they mean to me.
It's hard to get through those days when it's heavy on my mind but on the positive side, it's given me a kind of freedom in my life that I've never experienced before, making every "today" so much better than yesterday : )
It's odd how our minds work .... but i believe there is a reason for everything. Take care.

Answer 2

The way i see it, is if we was immortal then life will get boring, because you would have done everything. The fact that we know we are going to die one day, should be an encouragement to do the things we want to do and to get where we want to be. Obviously, we cant doing everything we want to do.
However, if you believe in religion (some religions), then death is another step.
Or you could just always be sad, knowing you will die one day. Which really is not a good option, because you only have one shot in life, might as well make the most of it.
Im sorry to hear about your mate, but i think you should mourn his death, but at the same time celebrate his life, have a balance.
I know one day i will die, so im doing all my best to succeed, meaning get a well good job lol, get money and travel the world =D sounds silly i know....but pain always comes before happiness!
I dunno if anything i wrote helps.
hope it does and it doesnt sound like a load of rubbish
xx

Answer 3

Making the most out of life for me is to learn something new everyday. I feel that when we stop learning we start dying. I believe that we should celebrate life and death. Nature is the perfect example of the cycle of life. Things change but they don't actually die. The leaves on a tree loose "life" and fall from the tree, their form changes but the dead material then feed the roots of the tree. In that way a leaf (with a rather short lifespan) becomes a stately tree with a relatively long lifespan. When the wood of said tree is burned, the by-products last even longer than a tree before they are transformed into another level of existence. A leaf is limited to the tree, a tree is limited to the soil and air, the by-products are limited to the earth and it's atmosphere...the cycle after that is unknown, but I look forward to learning what it is.

Answer 4

Celebrate your friend's life. The death of a loved one is supposed to be a time when we think of our own mortality. But, you can't live life to the fullest if you're always looking over your shoulder. Make the most of the time you have with others and you'll have no regrets. I know one day I'll be dead, we all will. But, as long as I can put my head on the pillow at night and know I was the best person I could be that day I'm not afraid.

Answer 5

I think as soon as you get off the wheel of calcable achievment and realise that it dosent matter if you make a ton of money or what else the goal that one day you will relinquish it and you may survive deathas a spiritual force , but consider getting through life with the least ammount of angst , so dont sweat the small stuff .

Answer 6

Ahh Eric Eriksons 8th stage of life.

I think reflectionis a good thing - makes sure you have no regrets.

Well, I wasn't making the most of my life and death petrified me - literally had me in cold sweats even though I'm only 25. So instead of being busy dying I got busy living. Now I'm following my dream. Even if I fail to achieve my goals I'll be satisfied that at least I tried. My fear of death has seemed to dwindle

I think this is a good question

Answer 7

Why would a person want to make the most of their life? It implies there is some sort of profit to be made. It reminds me very much of the phrase, the Human Race, which implies that someone will some day win. Life is not about making the most of or winning, it is about finding a way of having a life without pain, war, suffering, etc.

Answer 8

Living every day with love, peace, joy and happiness, knowing that when i'm dead I'll be able to do it all over again but on a higher heights. Celebrate the life of the dead, they are the lucky ones. Death is the doorway to life.

Answer 9

As long as my goal is to cherish, enjoy, celebrate today..I will also be able to find joy in remembering yesterday. We can't change the past, yet if we keep in mind that today we are creating it, we can change today. In the same way, if I spend today worrying about tomorrow, I will be much more likely to look back with sadness when it becomes yesterday.. that is, if I am fortunate enough to get another day! Yesterday is history, tomorrow's a mystery and today's a gift..That's why it's called the "present".

Answer 10

Morn your tragic loss, but then move on to celebrate the memory of your loved ones. You too one day shall meet a familiar fate. This does not exactly mean throw in the towel and call it quits. There is plenty of time awaiting you in death, no need rush to meet your grave. Take full advantage of the life you have been blessed enough to live.

"Death is inevitable, oblivion awaits us all."- myself.

Carry the memory of your loved ones on. Allow that memory to be shared with others so that they may be immortalized through you to further generations. As I am sure you would desire of others to do in the event of your demise. Give them something worth remembering, while you are still alive.