Last year I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me for the last 3 years of our relationship. I broke it off without thinking twice. A month later I found out I was pregnant and called him to tell him. At that point I found out that the girl he had been cheating on me with just had a daughter by him. He hasn't told his 2 oldest girls which are 15 and 18 about me being pregnant. Not many of his friends know at all because he doesn't want it to get back to his girlfriends!! He hasn't been there for me much, showing up at the last 5 dr visits. We get along sometimes, but most times we don't. He says he wants our son to be named after him, but my question is this, do I call his house in the middle of the night if I go into labor? Do I call his girlfriends house looking for him so he doesn't miss the birth? I'm 36 weeks now and I have had many complications, and the dr already said I won't go until my due date. What to do???
2007-04-15 03:55:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'd call him. No matter what he's done to you- or told people about you- he is the father. Plus having on the birth certificate can help make getting any child support easier (if necessary) through the state. You don't want it on your conscience that you didnt make an effort to let your child know his father. The name is up to you. Personally- i wouldnt name my child after a man who is a cheater.
2007-04-15 04:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by sblgpj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they may not do some thing....911 is for persons....the dogs are in a sac, the mummy will have to have taken them out. It is gross however you're going to must take the dogs out. You will must rip it open, which it kinda tough to do because it's slimy. Get a towel and rub them once you do. I hate to mention it could there's a well danger that you're too past due and the dogs is not going to make it. Dogs can opt for an hour or so in among dogs...it's usually tough to inform. If the dogs do begin respiring you're going to must reduce the wire too...get a few string and tie the wire off approximately a million-two inches from the dogs stomach after which use scissors to reduce the wire...I am sorry you're on your own....is there a further grownup you'll have come support you? What type of puppy is it...it could provide me a larger thought of what number of dogs. Call your mum and dad too and spot what they desire you to do.
2016-09-05 13:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by wally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ay, fagettabout him.
Seriously, delivering a baby is an overwhelming experience and you really, really don't want anyone who brings negativity to be there with you. Besides all the support you need, it is such an overwhemingly positive emotional experiece that you wouldn't want to ruin it by bringing him around.
Besides the fact that it seems he has had no lack of experiencing births, and yours probably won't be the last one. He won't be "missing out" on anything. He won't be around in any substantial way for that baby after it's born if he hasn't been around for your pregnancy.
Call your mom, your aunts, your sisters, your best friends. Call him a few days later if he wants to visit. Since he hasn't bothered to be around, this birth is SO not about him. It will be about you and that beautiful baby. You need to remain stable and happy and bond with your baby. He doesn't deserve to be a part of this.
2007-04-15 04:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by robin0408 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best thing to do is go to the hospital with YOUR family and friends. He can wait as he doesn't deserve to see the birth.
As for the baby's name, name it what YOU want with YOUR last name and don't put him on the birth certificate because if you ever want your baby to have the same last name as your future husband, it is easier to change if there is no father listed on the birth certificate.
As well, for custody, he will have to prove that the child is his because the father is unknown on the paperwork. :)
Try not to dode over this guy. He obviously has no interest in being there for you or this baby, so do what is best for both of you and forget about him and enjoy you new little one. You don't need the added stress.
2007-04-15 04:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that you would be happier with him in the delivery room, or would it cause more stress? I would say call him at his house, if he doesn't answer, oh well. If he does show up, leave a message at the front desk that you just want your support (whoever you decide) in the room and that is IT. Most hospitals only allow one person in the room since it gets really crowded when baby is ready to come. Good luck
2007-04-15 04:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by buttrfly52 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get yourself to an lawyer, or if you are on public assistance, get to your caseworker and get a child support order in the works. He is obligated to pay for his child. He evidently doesn't care enough about you to be with you in your time of need. Why name the child after him?? He has already proven himslef un-trustworthy by cheating on you with other women. Don't let him get away with cheating your son out of what is due to him. Good luck. Oh, and really, you don't need to call him when you go into labor. In my opinion, it isn't his business. He gave that up when he cheated on you.
2007-04-15 04:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why would you want too..he hasn't honored your relationship why would you even consider naming your child after him..he thinks with his head and not the one on his shoulders..you should think about you and your child...you should have people in the labor room that truly love you...parents sisters someone who has stood by you this entire time..if it were me i would call him in a few days to tell him his child has been born and the name i decided on...you owe him nothing and who cares if she finds out you are pregnant..she was the other woman for three years
2007-04-15 04:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by bailie28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby the name that you want to. He is looking after his interest not yours or your child. His girlfriend will find out about it sooner or later just like you did. HE is not a complication that you need. It may not be easy but after the child is born find someone new to love you and your baby.
2007-04-15 04:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want the dog there for the birth? I'd call him after you've already had and make sure you name in on the birth certificate and go after him for child support.
2007-04-15 04:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try my best to keep this low-life out of my life and my baby's. Who knows what your baby might experience if he has visitation, with so much trash in his life? Obviously it makes him feel more like a man to try to be the center of attention. Stay away girl!
2007-04-15 04:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by karenhar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋