at first my boyfriend was very inlove with me. he almost gave me everything special..he always wants to see me..always escape his duty just for me..(no sex involved).. then we always quarrel because he was jelouse, he only wants me to be in school, home and with him nothing more. then its like i became a ******. i always give him a head ache already.. now we already our 2 yrs together.. we are already hurting each other verbally.. its like we already have a gap and our chests are like very heavy towards one another already.. then when we had a vacation.. he raped me:c he raped me 3 times and that is the first time we had sex.. i feel bad about it because i am not yet ready to have sex (i am 23 he is 26) now..its like he doesnt respect me anymore.he says he loves me but he always gets hot tempered at me easily.. i can feel that some things are changing..its just like his love for me is not that strong anymore.. i want his love to come back? but how? please give me tips.. PLEASE. thx. :c
2007-04-15 02:10:37 · 6 answers · asked by mini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To the one above whom I assume is a man... just because she calls him her boyfriend does not give him the right to force himself on her! What is wrong with you?! Vacation is not implied consent!
Sweetie, he doesn't love you. He loves to control you. He's an abuser, and you need to stop dwelling on the tactics he used to get you in the first place. What he showed you then was a ploy, who he's showing you now is just the beginning of the truth.
Get out, and be strong. He does not deserve your loyalty.
Please, get out now, before he hurts you again.
2007-04-15 03:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by amstaff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he raped you, then he doesn't love you.Leave him already! I personally, would have never stayed with my girlfriend for so long if she was like that.! Hot tempered, never letting me out of her site, A.K.A. being over controlling.! Well, any kind of controlling is bad, really... Raping me would have beyond the line! Too far beyond for us to have any chance. He doesn't respect you if hes done all of these things to you. He doesn't love you. And although I know what changed, I don't understand what happened, that doesn't change anything. Nothing that this BOY has done to you, can be forgived. You didn't deserve any of it. But you do deserve better. And if you do anything else involving him, it should be filing changes. He raped you, damn it! Excuse my language, but it's true. You can't hold on to the past and destroy your prescient. Not to mention, maybe not have a future... Just get rid of him. I know it may be hard, but going through this anymore will be harder.
2016-05-20 03:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see each other more & focus on what you both had which was special. Talk it out & do something about it. You say he raped you but thats not what it was . You consented ,I assume ,due to the fact you call him your boyfriend. Hurting each other verbally is NO GOOD . There is no respect then is there? Sounds like he is a jealous man which he needs to get control of . You can help him by him understanding you. That takes communication. if you cannot both take a active part in the relationship then you need to move on to someone who will really love you. If he does not respect you then you need to go . If his love is not strong enough for you then don't waste your time. How easy for him to let go .... Maybe it is his easy way out .... You say your hearts r heavy for each other but doesn't sound like that is how he feels. You may truely love him but w/o his love in return you have nothing. Time to reevaluate what future you do not seem to have , due to his lack of desire for you. Try to communicate w/ him 1st , if he doesn't respond let him go . This time don't look back. Seems like thats what he wants anyway. Its a shame b/c he obviously does not recognize your love for him. Some people just do not know what happiness can bring them!!! Some people wouldn't know what love really was, even if you showed them...... Its what we do that makes a difference, and what we say , confirms it!!!!!.
2007-04-15 03:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's true that he loved you & maybe he still loves you,& it's fair enough that you want him back.But the fact that he raped you is not acceptable,so I don't think that you should get together with a person like him.You deserve a better person,a person who loves & respects you.
2007-04-15 02:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Shalein v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he raped you. he took advantage of you without your consent. why should anyone like that be worth it? someone else can treat you just as good as he used to, if not better. don't waste your time on fixing HIS problems.
2007-04-15 02:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by sunkissed. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file rape charges because he will do it to someone else!
2007-04-15 02:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋