hi ppl, i lov my hubby a lot...he's my life....but he always shouts at me when it comes to his relatives....he wants me not to mistake them and b'cos of tat he's shouting at me trying to support them....it really hurts me when he shouts....i donno whether he realises wat he's doing? i was thinking all these days i am much more important to him than anybody else in this world.....but he proves everytime tat wat i think is absloutely nonsense....wat can i do now?huv shud i react? am toally disturbed.....i feel like am all alone....i have no one to undersand me.....is it wrong in anyway to love somone wholeheartedly? am confused....help me out......give me some solutions to come out from this........
2007-04-14 19:47:31 · 8 answers · asked by littlelilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi ANGELE,
he's very good n afectioante husband...and i treat his realtives as my own....n am good to them.....but he never accepts even if they do some mistake....i dont want him to punish them for their misatek i'lll be satisfied atleast if he says wat they've done is not right....but he never does tat...he always try to save them .....n shouts at me for tat...he doenst realise tat am hurted....except for this he's a very lovely person and loves me a lot...still when it comes to his realtives he goes wild n makes me think tat am not important to him than those ppl....i go inferior.....i can never think of living withhout him....am scare dabout just onething....its only 2 yrs since w e r married ....we haev no kids.....n cant think of kids for another 2 yrs as am doing my undergraduate degree.....am scared just within 2 yrs if he cud get so much angry on me huv will our realtion be in future.....
2007-04-14 21:01:30 · update #1
Have you spoken to your hubby about this? what does he say to you about why he is shouting etc?
From the sound of it your Hubby feels inferior to you around his family. It seems to me he sees his own family as an embarrassment, and in shouting at you, it migt take the embarrasmment away from him & his family. He sees you as so important, & his family might portray him as someone that you don't won't to be with (I know the male mind works in weird& wonderful ways) But he thinks he is hepling you & loving you. So communicatiing with him on this matter is very important.
If the yelling at you is because he is embarrassed then, try to have him relax & reassure him that his family are just as special to you as your own family is to you. (I could be wrong but from what you have written it is when His family make mistakes, not you)
2007-04-14 21:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by ozraikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, babygirl - it is never wrong, to love wholeheartedly. If only more people, would. Unfortunately, some people abuse or don't appreciate it - but YOU aren't the one with the problem. Its THEM.
As for the issue with your in-law relatives - honey, I couldn't make out the issue. Could you clarify? I think I can venture to say, that this one flaw does NOT prove anything. How does he treat you, otherwise? Does he respect you? SHOW his love to you? Are you of priority to him, in your marraige? We all have flaws and make mistakes. Therefore, serious judgments such as you propose, must be based on behavior patterns - not incidents - and how they are, the majority of the time. If you can clarify further, maybe I can help you more.
2007-04-15 03:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder if you love him as much as you say or if you love what you would like for him to be. If he disrespects your opinions, is rude to you, shouts at you, and makes you feel worthless, this is abuse!! And I cannot continue to love someone who is abusive. How can you?
You should tell him that you will not continue to tolerate his abuse. It will only become worse if you don't address the problem now. Make it clear that you will not stay with someone who abuses you. Love doesn't hurt. Love is a gentle place of safety. If he can't make you feel treasured, he doesn't love you. If he doesn't love you, leave him; it's not worth the pain to stay.
2007-04-15 03:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my sister, we always think in wrong way , we should take a life in positive way
THis world is like Mirror , if we make smiling face in front of him then miror show smiling face ,but if we show anger face mirror show the same then my sister u do one thing give lots more respect to ur hubbys relative andto ur hubbies like sita , if they still act bad with u become more polite to them like lage raho munabhai movie and feel them ur nicest person for them , this things requires lots of courage
Best of LUCK
Have nice life to u
2007-04-15 02:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jitesh J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband needs something stuffed down his throat. nothing more annoying then some loud obnoxious creep yelling his head off suckling off his moms tit... and some women laying there being a door mate why?? aren't you worthy???????? do you real feel you need to take that abuse?oh i get it YOU LOVE HIM so you will eat any ball of crap he troughs at you.. if the creep really loved you ..you would come first before his family.. and yes he does know what he is doing to you.. but he doesnt care about your feeling ..a selfish Ahole thats all he is ..dump the creep
2007-04-15 03:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's emotionally abusive, and it will only get worse, leave him if it continues.
2007-04-15 02:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Just some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to teach that hubby of yours to treat you with respect or else.
2007-04-15 02:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cavaillon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new man. this might get worse.
2007-04-15 03:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by teeky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋