he is such a moron most of the time. He does really careless things all the time and it is to the point that it seems really disrespectful. Tonight, as the list of rude things has piled up, i realized that he unplugged the freezer and unthawed easy over $100 worth of meat, when i was p*ssed and said something he just seemed so emotionless. He is now sleeping in his truck like a baby, he alway messed up and then acts like i'm just such a b*tch all the time for getting mad.
I'm am tired of being the one to make up when he pouts, but the thing is that its supposed to snow tonight, lol, and i feel bad leaving him out there, should i go get him....
2007-04-14 18:21:54 · 22 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't feel bad and don't give in. When he acts like that it makes you feel guilty and he knows it. He is playing you like a fiddle! From now on when you are mad for a good reason and he gets all pissed instead of just saying I'm sorry, let him get pissed. Don't apologize, don't give into him. Let him see how upset you are. Give him time to think about the way he is acting and how it could affect your relationship. He will come crawling in the house soon. But when he does, don't pay him any attention until he apologizes.
Just like pets and kids.....ya gotta train 'em up right! lol
2007-04-14 18:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Laura H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go get him and try to talk to him the only reason why he acts like a child is because you allow him too he needs to stop turning it around on you if he made a mistake he should live up to it and apologize I'm sure that you would be much happier if he did and simply talk don't argue and tell him how important it is to communicate with each other and if he did something wrong and you get upset over it that he should be the bigger person and try to get you to feel better about the situation not make it worse. Good luck.
2007-04-15 01:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by sadgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so negative on your husbands actions and you assassinated his character by calling him a moron. The man is only human. Are you? He could be doing alot worse and you are on him like flies on crap. I would say you need to tone down your attitude. Most of your piled up frustrations on your husband has nothing to do with your husband at all, but your own issues. Figure out what they are.
2007-04-15 01:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK you told about all of his issues, but what about yours? do you treat him like a child? if you do, that's why he acts like one. Treat people how you want to be treated and they respond appropriately...unless they have some other issues going on.
I, like you, am the one who always is the bigger person and forgives to save the relationship. However, I do address the problem and give direct reasons of what I am unhappy or upset about. whatever you do while communicating, don't make generalizations and don't bring up resolved conflicts...it only makes the current situation worse.
With that said, go outside and get your man. You obviously love him and you just needed to vent to relieve some frustration. Love him and enjoy the cold night snuggling and making up.
2007-04-15 01:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what your husband did was dumb and your should have been upset, i mean really.
everyone has bad days/moments and are hateful are rude but when someone treats you that way on a regular basis that is crap. you dont put up with that and you let him know that you love him but you will not allow him to treat you disrespectfully or rude. you also need to talk to him about being distant and emotionless. try to figure out what his problem/wall is and see if you can fix it together. but no matter what he is going through dont let him treat you ugly.
and hell no i wouldnt go get him out of the car. he is grown and surely has enough since to come in out of the cold. dont feel quilty he went out and stayed out on his own he is grown and wants you to come get him. just a game. dont play and if you do decide to play a game play your game not his.
stay strong and if you need an ear feel free to email me anytime
2007-04-15 01:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, let him sit out there and freeze for tonight. I am betting he'll come back in sometime in the nite. I am thinking marriage counselling for you both would be a good idea at this point.
2007-04-15 01:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by purple_lily76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him start paying for his carelessness. Make him buy more food. Don't worry about him the snow will bring him inside. He needs to take responsiblity for his actions. Read a book, preferably the bible. Forgive him and move on.
2007-04-15 01:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He probably wasn't thinking don't be mad it is too cold for you not to have a warm body to snuggle with, just be the bigger person again, go out there in a trench coat with nothing on underneath and tell him you have a warm place for his meat. Life is to short Love the one your with.
2007-04-15 01:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kbella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, go get him out of the truck. He sounds to me like he has ADD (Adult Deficit Disorder). He should be tested and in the meantime tell him he must ask you if he can do things first. ADD people do things like that. He can't help it so you'll have to help him help himself follow a protocol regimen that he must follow. Meanwhile say a prayer for perseverance.
2007-04-15 01:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You guys need counseling. In the mean time he doesn't deserve to die for being stupid unlock the door and let him in. Then set up a counseling session and save your marriage or get a divorce attorney, but don't just live with it.
2007-04-15 01:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋