I am in an abusive relationship that I want out of, but unfortunately I'm scared I won't be able to afford to raise my daughter without him...I live in Charlottesville, VA, which is an expensive college town with 5 year waiting lists for public housing and 2 year waiting lists for rental assistance so I need some help finding the means to make it on my own...Can anyone tell me of an organization or something that can help me??
2007-04-14 18:13:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a bus ticket to a smaller community at least 200 miles away. Leave while he is away. Do not tell anyone until you are completely sure you can trust them with your wear abouts.
Call and check out the Department of Human Services in a city that you think would be to your liking. You can start all over.I did with 3 kids at the age of 31.
2007-04-14 18:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call health and human services. They should be able to put in contact with your local spouse abuse center. Your local spouse abuse center can usually help you start over and sometimes even help relocate you so that you are away from the abusive situation. If you are active in a church go to your pastor, he will be able to help you or send you in the right direction. Whatever you do please don't stay in that abusive relationship. Being scared is understandable, but being abused is much more painful. Your local police department should be able to intervene and assist you with your problem. I hope this is some how helpful to you. Good Luck
2007-04-14 19:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Heather has a kind heart and you need to get out of the relationship, an abusive relationship can make you mentally and depression will set in too, just call around and see about any shelters or maybe one of your relatives will help you but if not get ahold of welfare office.
2007-04-14 18:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by may s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, do you really want to raise your daughter to think that it's ok for a man to abuse her???? I know you don't. I know it's really scary to think about leaving, but the abuse will only get worse (sorry to say).
Make a plan. Don't let him know you're leaving. Try to secure housing outside the area so it'll be less convenient for him to harass you. Tell someone you trust, that you are leaving him. Gather documents (birth certificates/social security cards) and keepsakes.
Try talking to a local police station to get the number for a women's shelter in your area and ask that shelter to refer you to another in another town. Most shelters can provide transportation; clothing and personal items. Talk to the pastor of a local church. Talk to family services.
Good luck. Be strong. Be careful.
2007-04-14 18:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most local Police Departments have a shelter battered women are taken to. We do not give out the addresses to the location and it is kept secret. Call them and advise them of your situation and once in the shelter they will provide you with the necessary tools to make it on your own.
2007-04-14 18:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to heather,i was in a very bad relationship and was scared to leave to but it will only get worse and if you have a child it will effect them later on in life if they see the abuse they may think its normal and follow in your footsteps or much worse follow in the footsteps of the abuser,i up and left finally after seven years its been 4 years now and it still effects me mentally and emotionally the longer you stay though the more you will regret staying because you are letting him abuse you even by staying????
2007-04-14 18:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying about fiancal problems. However, that should not be your 1st priority. Your 1st priority should be getting away from him even if it means living with a family member, women shelter,etc. You don't want your child to see her father hit her mommy. It comes a day when every little girl expects her man do to her what Daddy did to Mommy. Do you want your daughter to see a man loving you or a man beating you??? Her future is up to you, because it is apparent that Daddy doesn't care enough because if he did he wouldn't hurt you.
2007-04-14 18:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by cute_as_can_be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can come stay with me in Pa, i'm serious, i live in a small town with not much to do, but if your serious, i have three extra rooms until you get on your feet.
2007-04-14 18:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
heather sound nice t let u stay with her go for it girl better to be safe with your child go stay with heather
2007-04-15 10:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by sadv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so do you want to leave the abusive big penis guy or do you want to find him bigger condoms.
2007-04-14 21:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by CR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋