What should I do with a husband that is verbaly abusive?

Answer 1

You two should seek counseling together. Along with counseling, he should take some anger management classes. Verbal abuse can turn into physical abuse. If he isn't willing to go to counseling together, get out now! You don't need to live like that, you can find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck

Answer 2

I'd seriously deal with this situation, and not ignore it. Most of the time, what starts out as verbal abuse, becomes physical abuse, and could end in permanent physical damage or death.

First of all, tell him you don't appreciate what he is saying to you, that you'll leave the room when he acts that way, and that you're willing to talk again when he is calm. Once he is calm, in addition to discussing the other issue, talk to him about his behavior, and see if he's willing to change. If that doesn't help, suggest counseling.

Couples need to learn to fight fair. That means no yelling or screaming, no cursing, no name calling, no attacking each other, no dredging up things from the past. Calmly deal with the issue at hand, and come up with a solution that works for both of you.

Answer 3

Try to talk him into counseling (joint session and individual for each of you). Your husband has issues to deal with, why does being mean to you make him feel better? You need to attend a private session so that you are reminded that you deserve better treatment and more respect.

I hate to say this, but verbal abuse can escalate into physical abuse quickly. Once the physical abuse starts (the first time), it won't stop on its own. He'll apologize and ask for forgiveness and when you accept and stay, it's like giving permission for it to happen again. Your husband will say it's your fault for.....being so stupid, making him so mad, etc. Verbal/Physical abuse is never the victims fault.

I know this sounds way harsh, but it's the truth and you need to start thinking about your future with this man. You need to think about your future.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Leave! I stayed with my first husband for 17 years and he was verbally abusive most of the time and it got to a point where I felt worthless. Don't let him treat you like that. Leave, and if he loves you and wants you back, he'll attend counseling to gain control of himself. You are a person, not a piece of trash! Don't let him get by with it any longer!

Answer 5

You should encourage him further. Take it like a woman... Seriously, why are you asking that question? Are you so naive that you don't know the answer to that question in thisday and age? Have you been living in a freakin cave for the last 25 years? But I will give you the benefit of the doubt.
LEAVE HIM NOW, not in two weeks or a month. I mean NOW!

Answer 6

You have some options...try to talk to him about how his words hurt you, get counseling, or leave him.
Remember that whatever you do...you don't deserve to be treated like that. He's abusive because of his own issues...not because of anything you did.

Answer 7

Get out

Verbal abuse, often turns into physical abuse.

Seek counseling if you want to try to make your marriage work, but he has to admit that there is a problem and want to go.

Answer 8

leave him it starts with the yelling and next boom he smacks u. so just get out oh before u leave make a mess or destroy something of his the way he destroyed your feelings

Answer 9

hmmmm..a few options-

talk to one of those 'marriage counsellors'
or talk to him and tell him the feelings you have when he gets angry/abusive/mean with you.

i hope it all works out for you..everyone deserves to be treated with respect!

Answer 10

you need to go to a marriage counselor, because if he verbally
abuse it. trust me it will become physical, it start with words.
you need to get help now.