and it had pictures in it and they wouldnt let you see the pictures...why would that be?
He says he wants me to trust him and that I dont need to look in his cell at the pictures...but I think if he wants me trust him he should have no problem letting me the pictures...who is right.
2007-04-14 17:52:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't need to tell you anymore about the fact that moved in with someone after only knowing them a month.
The fact of the matter is, just because you move in with them doesn't grant you ownership! It sounds like you both are testing the waters of what it will be like to be married to someone and you are already starting in with the jealousy thing. That should be enough to help him to make up his mind.
Sense you have just moved in with him, don't start trying to rearrange his life. Let these things work themselves out of his life without the pressures from you. Not to be mean.
Quick example, wife current wife of 19 years. When we first moved in together, she hung pictures up of her favorite band player in our bedroom. Sense it did bother me a little, I asked her to at least hang it in the closet or the closet door, this way she could still dream of him (Kidding)without me having to notice!
It would be no different than me having poster on the wall of sexy women. I wouldn't do it but, that's just me.
Let your new boyfriend get rid of the things he knows would bother you if you seen them, on his own. If he loves you after six months, he will probably delete them out of respect for your relationship.
Good luck
2007-04-14 18:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by safetyusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, i guess I have issues with the cell phone. My husband of 13 years bought himself a cell phone and it never left his side. He would not answer it if I was anywhere around and you can bet that I never saw any of the pictures in this phone. Well, he is now my EX-husband. He was talking to other women on this phone and making like he was happy go lucky and single. If this guy is already hiding stuff from you than run as fast as you can because that is just the start. I also agree that one month is way to soon to be moving in with someone. How would you even know someone in that amount of time? He could be an ax murder for all you know. A deranged lunatic even.
2007-04-15 01:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by ricki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he has nothing to hide then he shouldn't have a problem letting you look at the pictures. He probably has pictures of other girls. But if he is hiding pictures, I bet he doesn't want you reading his text messages or seeing who's called him either.
I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him!
2007-04-15 01:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I think you don't know a person well enough to move in together after only one month.
How could you have built trust after such a short period of time?
I have a problem with him hiding the pictures, if he had nothing to hide he would show you. Keep in mind if he had pictures that were incriminating, surely he would be smart enough to delete them before handing you his cell phone.
2007-04-15 00:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are right. Us women have a wonderful talent at always thinking the worst when we don't get things our way. It may be that he is searching for one item that is just his (you mentioned u moved in together) he may just be keeping grasp of the cell phone as "HIS" property. Unless he proves otherwise in another way (other than the cellphone) leave it be. Don't sweat the small stuff.
2007-04-15 02:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Angelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved in with someone after a month? What is wrong with you???!!! You aren't married to him ... it's none of your business. If you are worrying about some pictures then there are bigger problems than you are stating in this post. How about getting some self-respect getting out of that ridiculous position you put yourself in!
2007-04-15 00:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by daffodil 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You moved in after dating for a month? It sounds like neither of you trust each other.
2007-04-15 00:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you have only been dating for a month, then why
are you living with someone that you dont really know any thing
about if he wont let you look at his cell. then that not a good
sign. it sound like there is not trust.
2007-04-15 00:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's hiding something. But, it might just be private thing. Not ready to fully trust you maybe. Let him have his personal space and maybe he'll open up to you. He's with you.
2007-04-15 01:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by 354gr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are however moving in after just a month didnt let you get to know the person well. try slowing down whats the rush.
2007-04-15 00:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by windriver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋