i work with a mobile doctor.
we work and drive all day together and have lunch every day.
we spend about 8 hours a day with eachother and have some personal conversations about personal intimate things like about my husband and his life.
he talks a lot about sex.
he is 20 yrs older than me.
also he pays for my lunch everyday
is this cheating?
2007-04-14 17:23:06 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first you need to find what you and your husband consider cheating.. but to me cheating is contact a simple tongue kiss is cheating to me and anything beyond that.. under those terms if she kisses anther man she may as well sleep with him because cheating is cheating.. but to answer your question talking is not cheating as long as what you talk about is something you can tell your husband without thought or concern to his reaction..
2007-04-14 17:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by cpljdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best for you to stop the intimate talk NOW. I would also recommend you buy your own lunch or make it at home and bring it with you. It appears this Dr. is a bit of a sleaze bag and probably is trying to grease the wheels persay to get in your pants. I would only talk business or social events etc. leave your personal life out of all conversation.
2007-04-14 17:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you have to ask, then yes. You should not be spending all that time with a man that is not your husband. And you should not let the conversation ever get to that intimate level. You need to cut off this relationship because you have let it go too far. You are married and you know this behavior is inappropriate, especially if you have to ask.
2007-04-14 17:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Know it all 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on how you and your husband see it. If you talk more to this guy about personal things than to your husband than its kind of emotional cheating. It is natural though to develop a close friendship with someone you spend so much time with. But if he's flirting with you, it probably isn't the best situation to be in.
2007-04-14 17:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a husband I would feel very uncomfortable with my wife having the employer that you have. I would have to say you should seek other employment to reduce the temptation. This job and employer has already affected your home life whether you realise it or not, and will cause problems if you do not nip it in the bud.
Good Luck in what ever you decide to do, and remember just because your spouse does not know, does not mean it will not negatively affect your relationship.
2007-04-14 18:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Richard Stephens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not yet, but you are walking a fine line honey. Don't get me wrong, your mindset may consider this completely harmless. That doesn't mean his is. He's praying on your innocence, and he knows it. Right now he's working on getting you comfortable with him, after that comes the more intimate talk, and I think you know what comes after that. Just be careful. You are already questioning it, which means you are worried yourself. If you love your husband and it becomes a problem, switch employers.
2007-04-14 17:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey in case you have already got information he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the internet element I do have information, yet he hides his "cookies" temp archives that would hint what you're doing on line.. ") why might you elect to proceed torturing your self searching for added information? in simple terms kick him to the shrink noone merits to be cheated on. i understand its less complicated mentioned than accomplished because of the fact i'm confident you adore him, yet love your self extra. No guy is ever worth your tears.
2016-11-24 19:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet your wife would think so. Cheating is defined by the person thats being violated. If your husband was with a woman daily talking about sex an personal situations would you feeel comfortable with this?
2007-04-14 17:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by ICECOLD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes in my eyes! Leave sex out of your conversation. Why would you talk about personal intimate things about you and your husband with him? How would you feel if your husband was doing this with his co-worker? Think about that and make up your own mind.
2007-04-14 17:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Pixel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to look at it is.
Are you doing or saying anything that you wouldn't do or say if your husband was there with you?
If you wouldn't have the same conversation with the Dr if your husband was sitting next to you, than you probably shouldn't be having that conversation.
You know if your cheating or going to cheat
you don't need to ask us.
2007-04-14 17:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by scrachy24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋