I'm so confused! I was talking to my boyfriend on Xfire (sort of like AIM but you can play games.) He asked my why he felt like such dirtbag, and I said, "Idk. How should I know? Lol." Then he said, "Because you are one." I haven't even said anything to make him mad or anything, so I don't know why he said that! Then he didn't talk for a while and said he had to go. Then about 10 seconds after he logged off he logged back on, and then logged off again. We have been best friends for two years, and he asked me out in the end of march. What did I do? I didn't even SAY anything that would make him mad one bit. Why did he say it and why would he be mad at me? He has NEVER done ANYTHING like this in the two years I have been friends with him. I have NO idea what I did wrong. Is it just a phase or what?
BTW: We are both 13.
2007-04-14 17:19:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That is something only he can answer. You could have asked him why he said it.
You are so young........... When you are in a relationship, you need to communicate with each other. When he wasn't talking, you could talk to him.
I don't know why 13 year old's date. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16, and even then I wasn't ready. I wasn't even really interested in boys at that age. See how complicated things are........ I suggest hanging out with your friends, they are so much more fun and less stressful. Wait until you are older to date someone who is more mature and when you are both ready to be in a relationship, when both can communicate and be honest with each other.
2007-04-14 17:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You won't get any definite answer from anybody here, or even a particularly reasonable opinion. We have only your side of the story to go on, and you're biased.
One piece of advice I can give you is NEVER try to resolve a personal problem with another person over any kind of instant messenger, SMS or email. Go talk to the guy, in person. I don't even recommend doing it over the phone. It's important that you have as many communications cues as possible to sort the problem out. Go to his house, and find out what the problem is. Don't be confrontational. Act concerned and humble and get him talking.
It's probably something very minor. you've most likely caused something that's barely even trivial to blossom into a full blown problem by spending too much time trying to communicate online when you should have been together in person.
GO DO IT NOW!
2007-04-15 00:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by DiesixDie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez, what a strong reaction. I wonder what he did that made him feel like a dirt-bag. Could he be reacting so strongly to what he did. Could he be responding like this out of guilt? I would let him cool off/chill out/get it together/whatever for awhile and then see what happens.
Also, bare in mind this has changed from friends to boyfriend/girlfriend .......
sometimes this changes things (sometimes not) but sometimes the dynamic of the relationship changes. Be sure that this isn't some sort of power play.
I do hope it all works out. It could be that he is just having a really off day.
2007-04-15 00:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by sunshinek 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not putting in all the details but 2 me it doesn't sound like your fault. If he say's he feels like a dirtbag and you're the one, that's a good thing. He feels bad for doing something. I hope whatever it was it's not terrible. However, your young sweety, just relax and act like it doesn't bug you, even if it does. I am sure it will be something simple that you both can work out.
2007-04-15 00:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not really take it personally. At thirteen boys are just plain weird(My sons are 13 and 14). Maybe he was just having a bad day. Maybe his mom or dad were yelling at him. Maybe he had some friend over and they were teasing him about having a girlfriend. Whatever it was just give him a little while to realize and to calm down, and then maybe he can see what he did was wrong and that he hurt your feelings.
2007-04-15 00:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by ricki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering your both 13, he's young and he doesn't know any better. He doesn't know how to respect women/girls. He thinks he owns you and can say/do anything to you. Maybe he was joking. Sometimes people say mean things when they're joking. And on instant messenger, it's hard to pick up the tone of voice.
My advice is to talk to him about. If that doesn't work, break up with him.
Good luck!
2007-04-15 10:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys are very young, you will have many many relationships before finding the right one, guys at that age are much more immature then girls, just let him go, and wait for him to call you, or just move on. anything could be bugging him that could make him behave in such a strang way
2007-04-15 02:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did "lol" at him when he asked you a serious question. At the age of 13, thoughts can be confusing for both of you. Try writing to him to say you still want to be friends and you are sorry if you hurt his feelings.
2007-04-15 00:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by DadOnline 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do I feel like such a dirtbag
i dont know
because you are one
ok that doesn't even make sense. Is it possible that you misunderstood him, or someone else got on his messenger to mess with you?
don't over react, it sounds like something got misread or misunderstood just wait till you can talk to him in person
2007-04-15 00:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was having a bad day. It wasn't right for him to take it out on you like that, but if he was having a bad day it didn't matter what you said he would have gotten upset anyway.
2007-04-15 00:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by kl?? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋