he is at a family birthday party today and he talked me out of going. his mom and youger sister do not get along with me and say horrible things behind my back but i feel that it isint right for him to not want me to go. he took our 4 yr old daughter and told me i should stay and watch our 2 yr. old.
what do you think??
2007-04-14 17:16:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's not very nice of him. Your feelings must be hurt. He needs to tell him mom and sister to behave themselves, and if he can't do that then he souldn't go to the parties without you. You are his wife and he should not forsake you for anyone. I think he's being really disrespectful. I hope you can work this out.
2007-04-14 17:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a idiot even if you have in-laws you may not click with doesn't mean you should be left out of the festivities. he is being a selfish prick if anything he should be talking to his mom and sister and telling them this is my wife either you guys start getting along or I will not be coming to any family functions. Really this is pathetic you are married where he goes you go as a couple thats just the way. Maybe next time you have a family gathering of your own tell him he is not welcome and see how he feels.
You guys need to sit down and talk because I'm sorry to say with this type of behavior you guys are on the road to divorce.
When you marry you do everything together and family gatherings are the most important of them all.
God Bless and Good Luck really you should take his head off for being so insensitive to you.
2007-04-15 00:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While he may think he is saving the peace by having you stay home when he goes to family gatherings, it sends a deeper, darker message to his mother and sister.
You are his wife, you and your children are his family. His first loyalty is to you. If they don't want you there, or they don't accept you and treat you respectfully when you go there, then he shouldn't be going either.
It would be in everyone's best interest if things get resolved, especially for the children's sake. Your husband needs to talk to them and make things right among all of you. There may have been some misunderstanding along the way that needs to be cleared up.
2007-04-18 23:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for him to ask you to stay home is inexcusable, that's what I think. When you marry, your first loyalty is to your spouse...NOT the family you grew up with. If his mom and younger sister don't get along with you, that's one thing, but he should never tolerate them saying negative things about you in his hearing. He needs to tell his family, point blank, that you are his wife, the mother of his children, and if you're not welcome, then they are telling him that he and your children are not welcome either. He is sending mixed messages to your children and his family. You need to put your foot down, and put an end to this one, and quickly. Go see a marriage counselor if need be on this, because this can quickly fester and boil over into a major issue between you and your husband, and can drive a major wedge into your marriage, if it hasn't already. Remind him, if you have to, that he shares a bed with YOU, and not his mother or his sister.
His family doesn't have to love you, they don't even have to like you, but they do have to be polite and courteous to you. They can say whatever nasty stuff about you when you're not there, or when your family (meaning your husband and children) are not there, but in your presense, they need to be polite and courteous at all times.
2007-04-15 00:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband did this to keep down family confusion. However the two of you should have an understanding in regards to his family. Bottom line I would not want to be no-where my wife cannot be.
2007-04-15 00:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to get a spine. He should stand up for you. You are his wife and he needs to have his family respect his choice and the mother of his child. You should go anyway and don't put up with their remarks. Insist that he stand up for you.
2007-04-15 00:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to be blunt here. He is married to you not his mommy. Tell him you go or you walk. That is plain out wrong. Or better yet if you have any parties and I would have one on purpose now. I would not invite those clowns.
My gorgeous lady goes where I go and if she is not invited family or no I dont go.
2007-04-15 00:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that he his ashamed of you, but he does sound like a real jerk. He shouldn't go anywhere without you and he definitely shouldn't take one child and leave the other. You should confront him and say exactly what's on your mind.
2007-04-15 00:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by mrsujb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but it sound like he has no respect for you
at all. you are his wife and he need to treat you as. he has no
right to behave like this and you should let him know how you
feel about this and if get any worst then you really need to look
'at this for what it worth. with out respect you dont have much.
2007-04-15 00:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but it sounds like either he is embarassed of you, listening & believing to the horrible things they say about you, or is just trying to avoid conflict with his family.
2007-04-15 00:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by TINA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋