Whats it been like since your divorce?

Question

i'm doing research on divorce it's for a paper.

Answer 1

GLORIOUS. I get to think for myself. I don't have anyone making decisions that affect my life without consulting me. I don't have to answer to anyone. I can stay in bed when I'm sick without being made to feel worthless. I can take a long soaking bath or a long steamy shower without being made to feel I'm over spending money on water by doing so. I don't have to pinch a penny so tight snot runs out of Lincoln's nose. I don't have to buy two ply tissue and watch as he splits the ply making two roles of one ply. Speaking of toilet paper I don't hear anyone bitching if the toilet paper roll is on the "wrong" way. What the hell does it matter anyway...what matters is the fact that it's THERE! There's no full grown adult throwing a tantrum because something went wrong during the day at work, and he came home to take it out on me.

Answer 2

Do you really want to know, I hope you have time.

1. Wife decided to cheat, using our money she was supporting him of course I did not find out until we separated.

2. Wife started using drugs, weed and cocaine. She has also been selling it.

3. She wants money from me.

4. Since she was served divorce and custody papers, I have not been able to see my kids, nor will she let them call me.

5. Called CPS (child protective services) explained about the drugs. They tell me "Although it is illegal, it is not abusive." So they will not even do an investigation.

6. When she was served Papers, she called and threaten to kill me by days end. Went to police they arrested her but Still I did not get my kids, they left them with my father-in-law who is a 3 time convicted felon.

7. Wife has moved in her boyfriend, father, and another couple all whom do drugs. My kids are made to stay in their room. My kids tell me this.

8. My girl called me 2 nights ago, and in the background, I can hear them cussing and yelling at my daughter once they realized it was me she called. She is 11.

9. My son constantly takes my wife's cell phone and calls me begging me to go and get him. He always seems to be crying. He is 5.

10. Told drug task force about the drug activities. They did not decide to react until a week after papers were served for divorce and custody. Since I had drug abuse in my petition, she does not keep the drugs in the house any more. I know because she told me.

11. The list goes on and on. Let me know if I can be of more help. We have our first court date and custody hearing later this month.

Answer 3

Well my divorce isn't final yet (June) but I have moved out with my 8 yr old daughter and on our own for about a month now. Reason? He cheated with one of his customers. Alot of friends told me "Oh come on, give him a chance, it was just a mistake." Well, this was my response and any woman with a daughter should respond the same way...."I am teaching my daughter that your husband cheating on you is wrong, you should not settle for that, you deserve alot better than that, and you are strong enough and self confident enough to move on both financially and emotionally." My daughter and I have the most wonderful new relationship because of all this and she is very very proud of her mom. This divorce has been the best thing that I have ever done for myself and my daughter.

Answer 4

I have been separted from my husband for 6 months and am in the process of a divorce due to his constent cheating and mood swings. My daughter(not his child) and I are much happier not being around him, made sure we left and there is no turning back. i am more finacinally secure now and am in school. My daughter is doing great and is not so worried like she use ot be. Just a very peaceful life we have now and wish I would of done it years ago!

Answer 5

Strangely, I am financially better off supporting my two kids alone, even though it is now on only one income. My husband spent money on frivolous things, and I was not as frugal because I didn't see the point with all of his spending.

I am certainly happier. No more arguing. The kids are happier too. They spend time with him and see us being friendly towards one another. It is a healthier relationship now.

I concentrate much more on my kids now that I don't have to meet his needs. They are thriving. I have more of my own intellectual life now that I have the space I need. I no longer go to work upset about something that happened at home, so I am happier there too. Life is good.

Answer 6

I do whatever I want...and spend money on whatever. If I want to go out late at night I do. I have a small business to keep me from paying too much taxes. I have some different females friends that I can go and visit different nights. In a nut shell... havin fun

Answer 7

um its been almost a year - its been DIFFRENT no more hassling with his mood swings and etc... real laid back just staying home too broke to do much of anything... also got pregnant by another man who dumped me so i am mostly a single pregnant woman now. big status change from a year ago of being a married childless woman. anyways it sure is peaceful but harder financially ... a little stressful at times becasue of finances... ( and being pregnant alone ! )

Answer 8

well i don't like ti love alone she was bully and a gambler !! had secret credit cards and other things we not argue now and more peace full but i don't have a girl friend to cook for her maybe some day !!