2007-04-14 16:59:00 · 32 answers · asked by dkersey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That depends...how comfortable is your couch?
2007-04-14 17:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she come up with this rule ? It could be because she needs a night off to catch up on sleep, or may be to increase the anticipation. Find out why. The only rules in sex are the ones a couple makes. Forcing her to have sex when she doesn't want it, is considered rape. And having it only every other night isn't a bad deal either. If you don't accept her rule, you may not get it at all. Compromise.
2007-04-18 15:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with every who said to ask her why. she may have a good answer. Some women feel unclean or smelly for a while and don't want to feel that way everyday.
I had a fourteen year monogamous relationship. It was uneventful in the bedroom. It became less and less often until it consumed our marriage. It's all he thought about and it's the last thing I wanted. Eventually he cheated and I left him.
Why didn't I give him more? Because it was terrible! Boring, uneventful, wake me up when it's over stuff.
Make it exciting. Remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place. Try different and new stuff. (Get a book!) Throw out all the porn. That is men's fantasies for men. Real women aren't like that. If she comes to you, tell her 'no' once in a while. Make her want it. Ask her about her fantasies and try them out. Is she afraid of having more babies? Use birth control every time unless you want more kids. ( I have two from nights of laziness.) On the other hand, pressure to conceive can make it less fun, too
This is the glue that holds together your marriage. Ask her what will make it better. Tell her what you want. Some women were never told: Women have desires. Men have Needs.
2007-04-14 17:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Diane H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, apparently she doesn't want to have sex on consecutive nights. So, you're going to have to negotiate with her.
If you haven't been married very long, it sounds like you need to work through how to communicate about sex and just about anything else. Talk to her about why it's important to her. Maybe you're doing something that is turning her off. Maybe you need to come up with creative ideas to change things up.
Is she sore when you do it every night (maybe some lubricant would help)? Does she feel like it's becoming a chore? Would two nights on, one night off be an acceptable compromise?
It sounds like this "rule" is hiding something else. Talk to her about it. And don't take, "It's nothing" for an answer.
2007-04-14 17:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Biff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife, with two children under 5, I don't always want it everyday. However, my husband and I always discuss why or why not, and I do take into consideration his feelings. I think it's a middle ground thing. You can not force her to do it, but she also needs to respect your feelings and needs. Ask her if she doesn't like sex or if there is something lacking. Tell her to be honest and that it won't hurt you. You want to make her get as much out of it as you. Pay more attention to non sexual things right before sex, like back rubs, lightly caressing her hair, neck. Things she likes. Compliment her and mean it! Good luck. I understand both sides. Just be open, honest, and non confrontational!
2007-04-14 17:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't want to do it everyday because she wants to be clean and tight when she is with you. Women want to be clean when they have sex.
For a women to have sex everyday means she has to clean herself and also make she she feels right down there for the next time.
You don't want to be with her and feel like you fell in to the abyss. So give some time to tighten up and be fresh for you.
An if you just can't wait do it more that night. Or surprise her in the shower the next day.
2007-04-14 20:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how it was presented. If there is a good reason such as soreness or something like that, then fine. But if she's acting like she's doing you some big favor and it's only when she feels like it, then she's out of line. She has the choice of saying no but you have the choice of finding someone that will say yes.
2007-04-14 17:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should accept this rule. A woman is not like a man, she can not have sex continuosly every night, she will begin to swell, and burn down there, and it is not a very pleasant feeling for a woman. So respect her wishes, unless you want to be cut off permantly!!!
2007-04-14 17:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by DoriBugg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she means you can have sex consecutive nights - just not with each other.
2007-04-14 17:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by squeezie_1999 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its NOT like you have a choice man...when women say something like that, they mean it...
BUT!..yes, there is a BUTT
you can try doing romantic things in the bedroom or surprise her an a sensual way
That might change her mind
2007-04-14 17:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she is not intrested to have daily sex should be had according to the willingness of the opposite sex so its good to have sex on consecutive nights
2007-04-14 17:03:15 · answer #11 · answered by jayanth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋