does building a house cause a divorce for married couples?

Answer 1

I find this question really amusing. Not only because we built our own house, but it reminded me of all the trials and tribulations it took to do it. Building a house cannot ruin a marriage, but it can shake the heck out of the foundation! Especially for those who do not work well with others if you know what I mean. I was born and raised in the country. Hard work and getting a job done right came as second nature to me. My husband on the other hand was a city boy and didn't know there was a difference between roofing nails and drywall screws. Yet, my loving husband had this great idea to build our house. Three years later, it was finally complete. But in those three years, we bickered like a couple in our 80's over the stupidest of things and we learned to laugh ALOT. So I'll put it this way. If you married a girly girl or a metro boy who doesn't adapt well to screw ups.....forget it! If you've married a neat freak who can't stand sawdust in his/her hair and are not the "handy-man" type...forget it. But if you are both good natured, of sane mind and pretty grounded, can laugh off what doesn't kill you and still kiss each other goodnight at the days end....then roll up your sleeves and start drafting the rooms.....you are in for an adventure you will be laughing about for the rest of your lives. Oh, and because hind sight is 20/20...if you do make it that far, DO NOT put your bedroom on the side of the house where the sun rises....it's only pretty for the first month. After that you realize you'll never be able to "sleep in" no matter where you put the darn bed!

Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Wallpapering gets close, but building a house would test how good the foundation of your marriage really is. Start reinforcing your marriage cornerstones (things that really matter, like people and feelings) or your whole marriage will topple before the walls are painted. Think this way: "In 10 years, will it really matter?" chances are, the color of the carpet or the type of shrubs won't matter because they'll already have been replaced in the 7th year!

Answer 4

Many couples have a house built and they do not divorce over that. Couples usually divorce over money, but not construction.

You might argue over the details of the house and divorce over that, but arguing over the details is a sign of a bad marriage anyway.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

I can't see how the actual building of a house could do this. I could see all that's involved with it causing stress and tension, which in turn could put a strain on the relationship, but communication should help with that.

Answer 6

Since unmarried couples don't need divorces, I'd say yes.

Anything can cause a divorce.

Answer 7

I have seen it happen. Neighbors of my parents got into it so bad over what she wanted vs. what he wanted. They split, argued over who got the house in the divorce and she got it. Her daddy had to pay for it to be finished, though. It isn't in the building. It's in the communication. The final decisions should have been made on the house before the foundation was ever laid.

Answer 8

No. Petty differences, lack of communication and an unwillingness to understand the other and to compromise destorys marriages.

Answer 9

it can be a very stressful time. finacial worryies, difference in opinion on everything going into the home. cabinets, carpet paint,etc. must learn to be very patient and communicate well with others.

Answer 10

It could because of all the stress. Don't sweat the little things and I'm sure you can get through it....