we have 5 kids but we set tuesday night as "date night" but he would rather play video games. he works 3rd shift so i sleep alone, but on his day off he would rather play games till 2am and i'm out by then.. any other day it's a chore to get him up, he's too sick or he says he just can't keep his eyes open.. i would like to hang out and watch tv or something. and i am always going to bed alone. i feel like my kids are the only ones who want to be w/me, but it's not the same.... how do i get his attention or do you think that after 5 babies he just doesn't like me no more, or does he have another woman????? help please, i need to talk to an adult that doesn't love doodlebops!!!!!!
2007-04-14 16:19:14 · 9 answers · asked by amber l+5KIDS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he's worried that you'll get pregnant again?
Unless you are planning to add another baby to the family, this might be a good time to get a prescription for the pill.
Then you're safe.
And then you and him can let lose on date night without worrying about the consequences!
2007-04-14 16:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not working right now (stay at home mom) but before that I worked alot of 3rd shift. I will tell you something about 3rd shift, you can't ever get out of that schedule. You can't sleep at night and your tired during the day. I'm still up til at least 2 a.m. and I have to get up with a one year old in the morning. The last 2 nights I have actually been up til past 4 a.m. It's like when babies get their days and nights mixed up except it doesn't go away. I would say he really is tired, not cheating, and I suggest you get some extra sleep, maybe a nap the day he's home and stay up with him. Try out the video game, talk to him. The kids will be sleeping and maybe if you make that kind of effort, it will inspire him to do the same. Good luck to you and I hope you can spice things up!!
2007-04-14 16:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW!!! Well I thought MY husband was a mommas boy! You have married yourself to a very immature mommas boy. The bible even says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. You can't live as a married couple and make a family if he only wants to be up under his momma forever. Is he still breastfeeding? Maybe thats why he is there all the time LOL. Sorry but for real, you will spend the rest of your marriage in competition with his mother if you don't put a stop to it now. I'm dealing with that now and its a no win situation. I definitely think you need to consider other options and look for a man who is more on your level.
2016-05-20 02:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww hun, I feel your pain. My ex boyfriend was the same way! He worked at night, came back at mid-night and would prefer to play a online game until 3 a.m. I had to wake up early in the morning but sacrificed it to at least talk to him before bed but it was pointless because once he was in the bed he'd fall asleep on me. When he actually had a day off it was the same thing... I even tried playing that game with him just to do something with him but I got bored and I wanted to actually TALK to him.
Guys don't realize that we women need that communication... At least once a week.
I don't think he has another woman. It sounds to me like he's burned out like my ex was and all he wants to do when he actually has a break is to play and go into his own world. I'm sure you've done this but have a talk to him about how you'd like for him to at least give you a day where you guys spend time together. Even if it's not the whole day just a little bit lifts anyone's spirits.
As a mother I know how it is to have to take care of a child and try to spend time with my bf and I can't even imagine with 5! So kiddos for being a super mom! :D But seriously, try to talk to him but no relationship works without communication.
2007-04-14 16:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by zizi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i would print this question off and give it to him saying this is how you feel and when he is off work try staying awake with him playing video games even if you don't like them and then the next week say we did what you liked this week now it is my turn to pick how about dinner out no kids just us and see what he says or tell him tonight the kids are staying at someone elses house for the evening and it is just me and you all evening long lets just sit and talk and catch up or lets go to the what ever store he enjoys going to and see if they have any new things you know fathers day is comming soon and see if he will be willing to talk after that he may just relize that you have a lot on your plate and he doesn't want to bore you by asking you how things are going cause if you had a bad day you may bite his head off and instead of that he figures just keep to himself good luck
2007-04-14 16:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband how you feel. The most important thing in a relationship is communication. Maybe you could talk to him about getting on a different shift at work.
2007-04-14 16:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,don't worry much on that.Did you try a new look and appearence,after long time your hubby look fresh on you.Try a new fashion cloth or using a sexy one.No harm to try.
2007-04-14 16:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how you feel and tell him you want some of his attention too......
2007-04-14 16:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have five kids you've already had too many date nights.
2007-04-14 16:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋