When does one remove their wedding ring...?

Question

Friend's newly wed husband who is overseas is cheating on her. He is into nude webcam chatting etc. He doesnot admit he is married so that he can have fun. She removed her wedding ring. Is it ok to do so? When does one remove the ring? with no ring, is she deceiving men that she is not married?
A guy at her place of worship gives her stares. (they have not talked yet) Is she at fault at misleading him?
Please advise on both questions.

He is not yet here. She will be divorcing him soon. Is it ok for her to remove the ring before the actual divorce?

I am supportive of my friend's decision. She is getting judged by others so I am asking.

Answer 1

I don't believe one should remove their wedding ring until they are either separated or divorce.

If your friend is removing her wedding ring because her husband is cheating than she too is playing a game and tempting others. She is no better than the jerk husband.

If she is so upset with his behavior than I would suggest a quick trip to the lawyer to separate.

I guess my other thought is, did she know about the nude webcam and chatting prior to the marriage?

To take your wedding ring off to pretend you are not married is only deceiving yourself.

As for the guy at her church, she needs to be honest with him if he is staring in an interested manner and not a creepy judgemental manner.

Answer 2

It's a personal thing. Why are you worried about it? She's an adult and isn't obligated to wear a ring that's supposed to symbolize love, especially if she doesn't feel it holds the same meaning anymore--so, yeah, of course it's "okay" to do so. It's her choice and she should do whatever feels right to her.

And guys stare no matter what. XD It's not like she took it off to try and get men and to "mislead" them. She can still tell these people she's married if it becomes a problem.

However, if she feels this way--that it's over, and doesn't love him--then she should make it legally final. I don't agree with cheating just to get even or whatever.

Edit -- Of course it's all right for her to remove it before she's divorced! No offence but it's not like the bloody world will come to an end if she does so. Marriage is a PERSONAL thing and she shouldn't feel obligated to wear something so PERSONAL if she doesn't feel it holds that PERSONAL meaning any more. Do you get where I'm going? XD And I just noticed the "place of worship" bit. How does buddy at the church not know she's married anyway? :\

Answer 3

I removed my rings 7 years before I was divorced. Talking to another man is NOT misleading him. If all they are doing is talking then there is no problem, there is nothing wrong with a married woman talking to a man who is not her husband. However she needs to make him aware that she is indeed still married, in the process of divorced doesn't mean there has been a disillusionment of marriage...that comes only with the final decree of divorce.

Answer 4

By your word choice "at her place of worship" you are indicating that you are a Christian. I have grown up all my life in the church...hearing what is "right" and "wrong." First of all, the church is way too involved in the others' business. When my fiance and I decided to call it quites, that was the local gossip at Sunday School for the year. After years, they are still asking me about my personal love life. Your friend may have taken off her ring as part of the healing process. I believe you should leave her alone and give her some support. She is not misleading anyone by not having her ring. Mind your own business and focus on what is important her....your grieving friend.

Answer 5

Well, he cheated, so she figures that she doesn't have to be held to the marriage any more either. She doesn't have to wear the ring any more, it doesn't really mean anything to her by now. But, she does need to be up front with potential suitors that she is married.

I really hope that she has legally separated and is starting divorce proceedings. As sad as it is, her having an affair now could come back to haunt her in a divorce. Once she is separated, she can start dating a bit again. But still she has to be honest with the guy about the divorce so he doesn't end dealing with a "That's my wife" kind of situation.

Answer 6

Well yes but not for those reasons our rings broke with in the first year of marriage. We have now bee married for over 10 yrs. and haven't ever been able to spare the money to fix them. We are still very happy and with or without rings we are committed to our marriage.

Answer 7

the state is telling us we have to remove are rings when we are working in the deli even if we are wearing gloves. some of us are having a hard time removing are wedding ring

Answer 8

If she does not feel married, then she does not need to wear the ring. Perhaps it just reminds her of his unfaithfulness. However, I would tell her that if she really feels the marriage is over, she should take the next step in making it so...by filing for a divorce. For now, she is still legally married, though her heart says otherwise.

Until you are in that situation, you should not judge. It is tough to be legally married to a cheater, I am sure.

Answer 9

Well a little band of gold does'nt discourage men from hitting on women.If the woman is sending out the inviting signals.Makes no difference about her matrimonial status.Whether or not she's wearing a wedding ring.Plus she may have an arrangement with hubby for an open marriage

Answer 10

She can remove her ring whenever she wants to!

There have been times when my husband and I have bad fights and I will take off my ring for a day or two. It's not b/c I am looking around for another guy, but it is an F--- You to my husband. I still consider myself married even when it is off.

It's her business to decide.