A weird situation.?

Question

My wife recently went to visit family and while there decided she wanted to seperate. She left all of her belongings here, and my mother in law thinks I should have to pay to send my wife her things. I don't feel I should have to because she made the decision to walk away from this marriage and now should suffer what comes along with that. Mother in law tried threatening me with court. What should I say/do?

Answer 1

I would not lift a finger or drop a dime to help your wife. If she wants out then let her accept the responsibility of regaining her possessions. Don't worry about her mother, leave her belongings right where they are and wait for her to come get them or for her family to pick them up on her behalf. Just make sure you relocate anything that you don't want to lose! Good Luck Dude.

Answer 2

Tell her family she is more than welcome to come and get her things,and that you will leave the house while she is there. Make sure you take out things she might take that you want to keep. Don,t bring up anything to anybody that she should be made to suffer.This will only get stretched out of shape that you are completely at fault for everything! Leave a letter in the house where she can find it,stating how sorry you are about everything and you will not pressure her about anything. Tell her You will always love her, (if you do) and you will not pressure her about nothing. Tell her with time and space maybe she will understand and see things differently. If she can tell her when she is ready you would like for the two of you alone to sit down and talk. Tell her you do not want problems with her or her family. You just want to do what is right and best for both of you.
Don't get the law involved because things could get really nasty. Comply with her wishes no matter how you feel at this time. Women hold alot of leverage with the courts especially whe the mother-inlaw gets involved. Believe me I know what I am talking about here. Get calm and get counseling-----it will be better for you now and in the long run. I know it's a mess, but it could get a lot worse. Don't do anything she claims you might do . React totally different and opposite from what they might expect. Good luck,and take care.

Answer 3

Give her an adequate time frame to come and pick up her things herself. She has left you and it would be ridiculous for you to pack and ship the items to her. If she really wants it, let her come and get it. This is not your responsibility. Let your mother-in-law try to get the courts involved. As long as you are not denying her access, then there is nothing any court will do. She's just trying to get her way with these threats, so don't fall for it. I am sorry to hear this has happened, but I would retain an attorney immediately. If this is how things are already, who knows what else will happen.

Answer 4

If tyou live in a community property state (e.g., CA or TX) it does not matter who pays - all your money and assets should be cut in half and each of you get half - so the bill will essentilly be split, no matter who 'pays' now.

Of course you could be a real jerk and send the stuff to her and do a horrible job packing, things may get broken or lost, etc.

As for the mother in law, you will find your life will be much more pleasant if you do noty talk to her. And fi you and your ex-to-be can't talk without threats, do all communication between your lawyers.

Answer 5

No, you don't have to pay to send her the things she left. Tell the mother in law to go ahead and take you to court. The case will be thrown out anyway.

Answer 6

Tell your wife that if she wants her stuff to come and get it. They cant sue you for anything, she is the one that left. Document everything that is said or written to you by them just in case but this is ridiculous. There has got to be more to this story then told. If you want to get rid of her stuff box it up and write her a letter with a return receipt and tell her that she has xxx amount of days to get her stuff out of the house. Contact an attorney just to be clear about all of your rights. Good luck

Answer 7

Pack them all up very neatly, take care that nothing gets broke and then tell her to come get her own stuff. If she threatens court again give her the phone number and tell her to have at it. You are not a postal service and it is her problem not yours. Just be adult and have it all safely waiting for her.

Answer 8

Your mother-in-law needs her head checked. What is she going to sue for? She has no grounds for any case.... you are not holding the stuff hostage. You are only guilty of not being a sucker!

If your wife wants her stuff, she needs to come and get it.

If she is too much of a coward to get it herself, then she needs to pay someone to get it for her and send it to her parents' house.

Answer 9

Consult a lawyer to learn your legal rights - and sue the mother-in-law for alienation of affection!

Answer 10

it's none of your mother in law's business.... your marriage and separation decisions belong to you and your wife.

when your mother in law calls again, you could let her know you don't have intention to speak to anyone except your wife in reference to your personal lives, the separation or your marriage. let her know that she is intruding.

you don't have to be mean about it (umm unless you want to!). i think it's a better idea for you to discuss matters directly with your wife, no one else.

i agree, your wife left, and she is responsible to get her things... it would be gracious of you to let her come and get them, but it's completely up to her.

your mother in law can't take you to court over your marriage. that is halarious!! she is full of hot air, hon.

if it were me, i definitely would tell the mother in law she is intruding, and from that point forward, discuss your private affairs with your wife.

take care.