is it me....or does the up and coming generation strike you as wanting life handed to them on a silver platter

Question

i'm just curious b/c i feel like this often. i know so many "kids" who are just coasting through life on mom & dad's dime and don't understand that it takes actual effort and work to be successful in life.
sure, mom and dad should cut those purse strings, but what do you think is the cause of this mentality??

is it things like the internet...the world at your fingertips??the idea that cable modem can get you whatever you want at the click of a mouse??

is it parents not wanting to be a "bad guy"??

is it the "village's" fault for not holding them accountable enough?? (example...any teen who gets let off for committing a crime b/c they are young and "made a mistake")??


just looking for ideas and feel free to argue against me...but it you do, please give support to your argument so i can maybe understand your side!

thanks!

"baron" very true.

"pancakes" yes...the media isn't helping with advertising and also the idolization of celebutantes like paris hilton...um, does she even have a job??

"nora"...i disagree...
i am still paying my student loans, so no excuses there and TONS of schools have job fairs and career fairs for graduating seniors. that's a normal practice.

"mile man"
kudos to you. you're right one shouldn't generalize, but for the sake of argument, i do, plus, it gets tiresome saying "i know not ALL are like this, but...." some people just need to put on their "big boy pants" and realize that i KNOW there are exceptions:)

Answer 1

Tell it like it is!

Answer 2

i agree with you the generation coming up do seem to get what ever they want from their parents whenever they want or they can go and commit murder and get a slap on the wrist because they are underage. When i was growing up i had to work for everything i got and my parents installed in me the difference between right and wrong not that the parents are always to blame society in general has a lot of influence now on our young adults in the movies they watch the video games they play and even the music they listen to. I personally think that not having good guidance in the school systems now has let the younger generation down the schools seem to let to much bullying go on its all about being a jock or a cheerleader and not academics anymore parents don't take time to talk to their teens about issues that they might be having problems with and the teen carries around all the stress and anger that builds up until a tragedy like going a shooting up their school occurs so basically in my opinion everyone is to blame

Answer 3

You are absolutely correct.
The sad thing is that most don't see the turning of the tide in North America. They seem to think that the way we live now will be the way we will live forever. Now is the time when we need to open our and their eyes to the world economy. Our ride on the wave of prosperity is about to come crashing down. The waves are rising on the Asian side of the economic ocean and we are about to be sucked under by the undertow. We had better learn and teach the younger generations (if it isn't too late) how to financially swim.
Grab your lifejackets!!
If you doubt this, just look at how a couple of months ago a small drop in the Chinese market sent our economists running for the lifeboats.

Answer 4

I was born in '65 and when i was growing up they said the same thing about us . It gets worse every year it seems but even though some things are easier it seems things are harder for kids too. Maybe more pressure and alot of different people to deal with . When i was in high school we would get paddled if we messed up >Do it now and it is a law suit. As far as being whiners and having a high sense of self entitlement then definitely yes. seems like parents were parents back then. Mom's were unatractive and didnt sit around making deals with you and Dad's were square and kind of distant and crabby. Now the parents are like kids themselves. I'm glad I grew up when I did . Kids these days... that will always be a saying .

Answer 5

i'm not going to answer all your questions but i'll go around the situation for you to think. its common for parents to support all their kids needs ups to their abilities. this is done for the sake of loves. all parents wouldn't feel the children as burdens. for children that born with silver spoon, they might go through their lives without difficulties. everything as per mouse. click.. you get it. everything is easy. it is ups to the children to think and to consider how the easiness of live would lead them to.

the children should read and be exposed to real world. the world that not only occupied by the rich but also shared by the paupers. in situation where the parents controlled their children for whatever reason from the real world, they might grown up a siblings that later will only know how and what to spend the parents hardearning wealth.

to be a guided person, children with a 'mouse click' have to make a way to understand a real life. locally and globally. never ending entertainments won't do any good. you need to ask yourself a lot of 'ifs'. what happen if my silver spoon changed to plastic or my villa becomes a underbridge home. how could i live in such situations. that would let you thinking of lives in the other corners.

the abilities to differentiate the good and bads will be the self barometer to judge your decision making. everybody makes mistakes. but the person who conducting the mistake knew is the mess was done planned or it just happened without prethinking. so if you are a kid please dont take as granted when people lets you off after commiting a crime because one day you will be sorry.

so, you, that born with silver spoon. should ask yourself is it wise for me to spend the parents wealth as i wish, or, should i spend the wealth after giving some thinkings to the real world.

Answer 6

Whenever Johnny gets penalized by his teacher for not behaving in class, or for not turning in his assignment on time like he's supposed to, his parents are up in arms wanting to sue the school because they emotionally traumatized young Johnny. So these kids grow up not understanding/comprehending that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Then, you have the kind of thing happens in society, like what happened this week, where people are taught they can do anything they want and that they don't see/feel the consequences.

Answer 7

You're 100% right, and I'm part of the "up and coming generation". My parents have money, I don't. They're older for having a 14 year old kid and grew up without luxuries so they know what it's like. They tell me "I survived without it, so can you" This makes them feel better about not giving me everything. I got in small trouble with the law. I was let off because we only stole a stop sign, but the cop lied to us exagerating punishments to scare the s*#t out of us. And it worked. My parents tell me I'd be better off without some of the stuff I ask for, and I secretly agree (please don't tell them). I become determined to get what I want and in doing so I see their side of things. Kids at school say I'm rich, my family might be but I'm broke. I do earn the money I have. I don't think it's right to look at the "up and coming generation" as one big group though.

Answer 8

No. I work with young people, and most seem shell-shocked by the constant violence in their lives and repulsed by the lack of opportunity they experience.

For example, I paid my own high school tuition ($300 a year) in 1971. That same school costs $18,000 a year now, way out of reach of a minimum-wage part time worker.

I went to college on a full scholarship that I did nothing to obtain at a time when the entire school year cost $3,500; that same college doesn't even give out that scholarship anymore, and the cost is over $20,000 now.

I interviewed for jobs on a campus schedule where companies came to see us, and had my pick of nine--yes, nine professional level jobs, six of them with management training programs of over 2 years each. That's unheard of today.

Yes, I was a good student, but the challenges faced by today's kids were unheard of in my time. I feel for them, and anything you can do to help them prepare for the future is great!

Answer 9

The last few generations feel the way you do. I think it started after WWII. The GREATEST generation did everything it could to make sure their children got everything they didn't.
In the 60's, it went overboard with hippy parents actually saying stuff like 'I'll let my child decide' (on religion, sex, smoking, etc) and really screwed things up.

I meter the coming generations character by the commercials aimed at them, compared to the commercials aimed at adults. It's pretty sickening. Almost all kids' commercials show parents or authority figures to be bumbling dolts. Chuck e cheese, burger king, fruit roll ups as a few examples.

Answer 10

I think every generation probably thinks as you do. I have an uncle who lived at home with my grandma until he was in his 50s, then he got married and moved out - we all questioned his motives, particularly as my grandma is getting old and frail. It's not just the up and coming generation who does this sort of thing.

One issue now is to do with the over-population of so many areas, it is hard to get started up on your own - buying and renting are expensive options, and employment is not a guaranteed thing anymore. Some people are just lazy and don't want to move out of home, but you can't lump everyone in the same category.

Answer 11

I'm am part of this generation my parents my made me buy most every thing i want and i work hard to get it. But i believe that my generation has been totally ruined by there parents and today's culture I'm half scared to see what the furter will be like with all the little hoods and gang banger ruining around and all the whiny baby's who cant manage money and have no common sense