2007-04-14 14:43:08 · 12 answers · asked by mds1126 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
newly separated - may be you need to think a little. obviously, you have made that decision for a good reason.
could you live with what went wrong in your couple?
if you could, still, take some time to think about all this. you don't want to go back to her/him just because you feel lonely or you miss your routine and comfy couple life.
good luck!
2007-04-14 15:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie are you really asking for suggestions...or do you want honesty? I could suggest things all day long, however it's not going to fix the problem. Now if you want honesty...that I can help you with. Without even knowing the circumstances, it's more than obvious you still love this man. Whatever brought you to separate in the first place, now has you thinking you may have made a mistake. This might be a really good thing. I read alot of the other answers, and most of them are right...you are feeling those "lonely" feelings. But that's not the half of it. On the other side of that coin is the realization that you were happy in your old life....you just needed some "me" time to breath and reflect on what has happened and where you want to go from there. In a stressful situation, one can't do that unless they remove themselves from the situation. It's why your friends always have great advice....they are outsiders looking in. So now that you took yourself outside of the box, and can see the problem, do what you have to do to talk to the husband about fixing the problem. Or sit and regret it for the rest of your life because your pride got in the way.
In this day and age, it's all to easy to walk away from someone because they irritate us. There aren't too many people who put things into perspective, admit their mistakes and turn around to make things better. But in second guessing the separation, you are doing that. Which means that your marriage is going to be one of those that will last. Truth be told, you didn't really want out....you wanted time to think, time to be 'you'. Now that you've had that time, you've realized you've had what you wanted all along. It's the fun thing about marriage...the roller coaster ride you go on while you lay out the ground work. That's why they say for better or for worse. It's not easy, there are no right answers, and sometimes you want to go running for the hills screaming "Good Lord, what have I done to deserve this?" But if you use this as a learning tool, you'll gain far more from it and will learn to handle the next problem that comes up a little better. Maybe turn to your spouse to work through it together rather than leaving. Life is a journey honey, not a race. Take the time you need, but if your heart is with your spouse, then you need to start there.
I wish you luck!
2007-04-14 16:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you're not just lonely and miss the comfort and security of a relationship? When I first left my husband I was ok for a couple weeks, then I had second thoughts. I realized later that is was only a relationship that I missed. I missed another person being in my home with me, in my bed with me, eating with me. As soon as I got things in perspective and moved on emotionally I realized that I did do the right thing.
2007-04-14 14:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by tarahump 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question only you can answer for your self.We all have life altering decisions to make at least once in our lives.And this is yours.You must ask your self why you left?And are there a good chance that it will change for the better.I will say that marriage should not be entered in to lightly and should not be left that way ether.
I wish you the best and good luck
2007-04-14 14:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU GIVE IT SOME TIME. I THINK YOU ARE JUST LONELY AND NOT NECESSARLY missing your ex, you really just want someone there for you. I think if you two called it quits, you did it for a reason. Go hang out with your friends or family to keep your mind off of it. I think you'll eventually figure out that you are just lonely, not having second thoughts.
Good Luck.
2007-04-14 14:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by qt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make a list of the pros and cons remember all the little things that made u mad and all the things that made u go ahhhhhh then see which one out ways the other one. but think long and hard about your decision especially if there is children involved that only messes them up going back and forth
2007-04-14 15:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by qweenofdenial 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your mate about getting some counseling. After the counseling, you should make a decision if you want to be with him or her. If I was in your shoes, I would follow my heart. If I really loved this person, I would go back to him or her and try to make it work. I
2007-04-14 14:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by wildvvc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a part in there where you want to bargain, I kind of got bitter after awhile. I would look outside and wait for my husband to come home when he was running around.
There is a part in there where you want to you bargain.
2007-04-14 15:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out what it is that made you leave and you should try to work things out before its to late and your partner doesn't want you back.
2007-04-14 15:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, tell your spouse you're having second thoughts
2007-04-14 15:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋