What is it with women?

Question

I have this issue were the place I was last employed I was a security guard. The employees inside of the factory needed a way to contact me in case of an emergency so I gave them my cell number considering I would be outside and only entered the building once and hour. Now I have this wife from one of the men who had my phone number, accussing me of sleeping with her husband. Which I never have and never will. But the way she contacted me is funny because with her having my phone number she felt the need to contact me on Myspace. THe accussations she is claiming are all false and I would never cheat on my husband. So why contact me on Myspace instead of calling me like a grown woman with accussations may do? Any suggestions on how to deal with this and why she may have contacted me this way?

I no longer work for this company and the main reason for giving them my number was in case of emergencies. While I was on the job. This guys wife is apparently in her 40's whereas I am in my late 20's. I want nothing to do with him or her and yet she keeps sending me these messages. She honestly needs to grow up and get over herslef at this point. My husband already knows of the accusations that she is trying to say and laughed about it. So why she keeps sending me these messages I am unsure. But if anyone has any suggestions on what to say to get her to shut up I am all ears. Thanks!

Answer 1

Tell her that if she doesn't stop bothering you about this non existent issue, you will be forced to file for harassment charges.

Answer 2

Come Clean! Why would you take it upon yourself to give your Cell Number to employees of a Factory to contact you? This is abnormal, and it sounds like you did it above and beyond what your company wanted you to do.

I mean, if employees can get to a phone to call YOU for help, it would make sense that they would call the Police of Fire Department instead of you. I mean, why would they call a woman whom probably is not armed to help them that is employed as a low paid security officer?

If you were in a guard shack or had a radio, it doesn't matter. A factory only uses security guards to check people in or be alert of leaks, fire dangers, tresspassers, and it is not the norm that a Security Guard give their "personal" cell number out to employees that I'm sure already have directives to follow for emergencies.

I bet you were flirting and someone bit the hook, and now you're busted.

You can fool some of the people some of the time, but, you can't fool all of the people all the time.

Answer 3

I agree with The Sylvan Wizard above that there was absolutely no reason for you to give out your personal cell phone number. What you did was and is highly unprofessional!!!!!!

There is absolutely, positively no reason for a security guard to have her/his personal number circulated.

Your company definitely gave you a radio and/or some other means of communication. Yes, I know they did. They all do. If you're guarding something in the middle of nowhere and you're by yourself, then they might even give you a company cell phone. If you were inside a factory and they didn't give you a walkie-talkie then you should have asked for one. But you're apparently not professional enough to know what's involved in being a security guard.

It makes me very uneasy that there are such unprofessional and naive security guards like you around! Get some real security training before you call yourself a security guard again.

No wonder that man's wife is freaked out! She probably, just like me, can't imagine why he would have your personal number for "security" reasons. Sounds all very fishy. You messed up big time.

Answer 4

Maybe her husband did cheat, but not with you. Women are sensitive creatures, and are easily intimidated by the sight of another women's number in their boyfriends/ husbands phone.

Why? Because a lot of men are scum and cheat on their wives/ girlfriends and give us guys that dont cheat and are faithful a bad name. Unfortunately we all get painted with the same brush.

I understand precisely what you're saying; my advise is to ignore this confused woman and get on with your life. There are more important things to be doing. =)

Answer 5

it's called insecurity. like you said you're in your 20's and she's not. maybe is is cheating just not w/you. i do know on myspace you can set your account up to only accept msgs. from those only in your contacts so block the chick out. best wishes.

Answer 6

FLAG HER ON THE MYSPACE SO SHE CANT LEAVE MESSAGES AND IF THAT DOESNT WORK GET A LAWYER TO WRITE HER A LETTER STATING IF SHE CONT TO BOTHER YOU YOU WILL FILE CHARGES YOU SHOULDNT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS MESS
OR MAYBE YOUR HUSBAND CAN CONTACT HER HUSBAND AND TELL HIM TO CONTROL HIS WIFE!!!

Answer 7

close your myspace account and change your phone number
------she's contacting you through myspace as supposed to calling you because she's afraid if she calls you on your cell, you might call the cops on her and tell them she's harrassing you.

Answer 8

Is there something you should you do in my space that you can actually report harrassment. Show those messages to the cops if she does not stop. Advise her that this is what you intend to do or maybe don't even give her a warning at all.

Answer 9

because she wants to confront you but she's still scared about actually talking to you. and she's probably very insecure in her marriage or her husband is acting funny so she's getting stressed and taking out on you even if it's ilogical. talk to the husband, at work and not out of normal routine if you can help it. he needs to control his wife, and he needs to know, more importantly, that she doesn't trust him. hopefully he can fix his marriage.

Answer 10

Avoid myspace.