I was with my boyfriend for 14 years, we have 2 kids. We were apart for a year and a half. During that time I dated and he found a new girlfriend. We are both 42. A year ago last January, he came to me saying he wanted his family back. He broke up with that woman, and we got back together. Things were wonderful, we even talked about getting married. Then on New Years Eve, after going out and having a great time. He broke up with me saying, He was just not into me anymore. And the family life is not for him. 3 weeks later he called that other woman and she took him back,( they were not seeing each other while we were together). I believed every word he said. I did not even see it coming. I don't think that I can ever forgive him for doing this, not just to me, but to our boys. He pays child support and sees them everyother weekend. He broke my heart, and left me all alone. Both of my parents recently died. Him and the kids were my life. It does not bother him. Would you forgive?
2007-04-14 14:22:24 · 21 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You have to forgive or it will eat you up inside, but you'll never forget. I'm really sorry your going threw this. Just go on with your life and sometime you'll find someone that deserves you. Good Luck!
2007-04-14 14:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife had an affair. I thought I was going to die. My heart was broken into a million pieces. But I knew even when I found out that I still loved her and could forgive her. She regrets very much what she done. She feels like a fool and wishes she could take it back. But the damage is done. It's been two months now. It's not been easy. I'm trying, with the help of God, to put my heart back together one piece at a time.
2016-05-20 01:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by eugenia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it. Stop it right now. What are you doing, feeling sorry for your self? He left once, and you knew in your heart, he could leave again, still, you took him back for what "COULD BE", not for what "WAS". Ask yourself a simple question, right about now.
Who do you need right now! Now! Right this moment, don't get up and go somewhere else. RIGHT NOW!
You need YOU. Why are you expecting someone else to see some inner wisdom or immaculate wisdom is the few words you typed here? YOU HAVE TO GET YOUR SELF-RESPECT BACK. Don't be thinking you'll find it under the couch or in the lint trap. Your kids NEED you. They are going to see how you solve your problems and they will try to solve their problems the same way you do here. AND, what are you showing them?
F*** him, worry about you and yours. Whether you forgive him or not has got nothing to do with it. You're the one that has to be the stable on. The stakes are very high here. You've got to do it right, because you will only have this chance once. And that time is right now.
I'm sorry your parents are dead. But, your sons parents are not. Break the cycle. Do you want your sons walking out on their children? Ask your B/F only that, not something else.
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2007-04-14 14:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive but never forget. If things were that easy to forget then we would never learn anything from life. If you don't forgive him for the things he did to you then you will just become more and more tired of hanging on. So let go, be thankful that he is reaponsible in helping you raise your children and move on. Remember everything happens happens for a reason.
2007-04-14 15:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rhi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will forgive and not forget and move on with my life .Do not become selfish like your partner or else you will be like him.Life at any age is beautiful. Plain sailing is a dream here and now you got to find out the truth from reality.You still have your boys .Show them you are a loving and a good person and they will grow up being like you and not like their dad.
2007-04-14 14:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by thumba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider whether to forgive or not forgive...he would cease to be of any importance to me. I wouldn't feel bad for giving him a second chance, but never again. Get back to dating because there are good men out there. It was very crappy that he jerked his kids around like that. He has proven he is not worthy.
2007-04-14 14:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive and forget the best you can for your own peace of mind. Just try to move on with your life and find someone worthy of your love.. he definately isn't worth it.... I feel for you, sorry to here you had to go through something like this..
2007-04-14 14:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lavender 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, but don't forget. If he loves you as much as it sounds like you love him, he wouldn't be hurting you like this. You don't have to hold a grudge or hate him. If I were you, if he wants to come back to you, I wouldn't take him back. But for your childrens' sake, get along with him. There is some one out there who won't mess around with your heart. But don't hold me to this, I'm 14.
2007-04-14 14:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear this....
For your children's sake and yours....forgive but don't ever forget. It is his loss...look what he lost in his life. The other place he is he will find once again is just FLUFF.....move on in your life and make a better place for you and your children cause you all deserve it! I will pray for you and the children,.
2007-04-14 14:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by missellie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once had someone really break my heart and lied and did all kinds of horrible things.
It took me 3 years bu I did forgive him. when you hold on to anger the only one you hurt is yourself, but unfortunately, it takes time for the heart to catch up with the head.
2007-04-14 14:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋