2007-04-14 14:03:36 · 16 answers · asked by Carlee S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i live alone bacause the father left me after he found out i was pregnant.... what should i do?
2007-04-14 14:13:41 · update #1
i live alone bacause the father left me after he found out i was pregnant.... what should i do?
2007-04-14 14:14:02 · update #2
Your question didn't make much sense...I do not understand what you need advice on, i am IN THE SAME BOAT!!!!First when your baby comes, put his a** on child support immediately, he needs some kind of responsibility, thinking he can get someone pregnant, and not do anything.....(SAME BOAT AGAIN!!)You will be able to handle this, i understand that it is a big thing, but if you are willing and determined to take care of yourself, and a child(but you need to do what is best for the child..)
Good luck!!:)
2007-04-14 14:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok look some of these people can't grasp the Idea of a 19 year old having a baby alone...I'm so tired of people saying put the child up for adoption( that's what people do when they don't want to take responsibility for what they have created), anyway....First she needs to relax and take it easy ,now if the father of the baby is still wanted by the 19 year old then she needs to give him more time ...sometimes its harder for the male to take it all in, so try and be patient it may work it self out...in the other hand if this is not the case is there family that can help . If not (you) or if this is not you she can do it on her own , I had just turned 21, when I had my First baby and I did it on my own ...I'm now a mom of 5 and my 18 year old son just had a baby boy ...but I wish he had of waited just a little longer the mom is 17 so I know what I'm talking about ...but in this case the mom ran away, but now they are together ...so sometimes things do work out.....best of luck
2007-04-14 15:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Eonix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice on what??? To keep the baby or not?? How she will raise a baby at her age?? Is this your 19 year old??
You need to be a bit more specific when in need for help.
Some 19 year olds are very mature, actually. Support her in her decision and help when she asks for help. Don;t criticize her but be there to listen and lend a hand. A hug goes a long way too!
2007-04-14 14:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by manners 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you're 8 months along, abortion is out of the question. So your two options are raising the baby or putting the baby up for adoption. Your local pregnancy center can help you sort things out whichever you choose.
If you do choose to keep your baby, the father has a financial responsibility. Make SURE his name gets on the birth certificate- it will make things easier for you if you ever have to go to court.
I wish you and your baby the very best.
~Kelsey
2007-04-14 14:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this postion but i was 17 when i had my first daughter and tho i was with her dad he never done anything to help. all he did was sleep or go out with the guys and it was like i was alone,it is hard to raise a child yourself but it is wort it.I now have 2 kids 10 and 7 and i'm alone because their dad left me because i didn't boys but what i am saying is you should keep the baby but of course it it your choice.If you have family and friends to help you then i suggest you keep the baby. congrats and good luck.
2007-04-14 14:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by happy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do wht u feel u need to do , keep baby and raise it without your ex or adoption. There is lots of services out there to help young woman in your situation (finances,baby needs etc). Good luck , i was a teen mom to , it can be alot but worth every minute.
2007-04-14 14:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by ghettobootybundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me and i'm gonna tell you now it is hard but its so worth it. my girl is a year old now and i have gone through so much in this one year. i've cried i've screamed i've punched walls (not recommended it really does hurt) but most importantly i've loved and laughed and tickled and danced and i've seen this beautiful girl grow before my eyes. its hard and you need all the help you can get so you don't go totally insane. keep your family close they will be more support than you could ever dream of. i wish you so much luck girl its a really brave thing to go into parenthood alone. love your baby and you'll never regret it.
2007-04-14 14:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by emoboyzrhot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, do you have family members near you or really close friends, they might help you. im 17 with a 8 month old i live with my family .
2007-04-14 14:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unmarried , and not living at home with your parents, put the child up for adoption , so it baby can be raised in a two parent home..............OMG now I sound like Dr. Laura. but it's still good advice
2007-04-14 14:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Move back home with your parents or go to a shelter.
2007-04-14 14:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mommyof3♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋