My mom's boyfriend is always in my house. I hate having him around. My mom won't listen to me when I tell her.

Question

My mom's been divorced twice, the most recent one is almost 1 year ago. She's been dating this guy for 4 months. I'm 16, my sister is 13 and she's never home. My mom isn't either. She's gone from 10 AM-1 AM on the weekends. I only see her for 3 hours a day during the week because of schedules. She used to be at his place all the time but now, even though she said she wouldn't, she's bringing him here all the time and tells me to introduce him to my friends. I won't, because its too weird and then she does it. It's too cliche. I've talked to her but she says I'm trying to dictate her life and getting in the way of her happiness. I've confronted him too, but he doesn't care about me because my mom's sleeping with him and he's old, like 55, and she's barely 40. He barely leaves my house anymore and my mom forces his company on me. Took him to my job interview, they drop me off with my friends. And she makes fun of me when she runs out of subjects with him. And once she hit me. Not herself

Answer 1

Your Mom is spinning out of control. She likes the attention she is getting from him. Right now she's not thinking about what is best for you and your sister, although this should be her first concern. It won't last long she will tire of him or the other way around and hopefully you and your Mother talk about your feelings. When we have guilt about something we do get defensive, so this might be why she reacts when you say something to her about it. It has to be hard, but love her and be strong not only for yourself but your little sister.

Answer 2

You deserve better. You and your sister deserve to have an attentive mother. Is there anyone you could tell this to? a relative you like? a neighbor, child protective services? a minister? I hope you can do something to change this since she wont listen to you. I am very very sorry. I know when you are older you will be fine and live a good life having seen how awful this is, but right now you need a little help from someone.

Answer 3

appears like your mom would would desire to enhance up slightly. I hate to assert it, yet she's the loser for subjecting her teenage daughter to a creep like him, with out attention of the form you sense approximately it. You did no longer relatively ask a query here, yet i think of you basically choose somebody to pay attention on your recommendations and thoughts. My suggestion is to stay far flung from him as much as you may and carry close around acquaintances or kinfolk that are in touch on your nicely being.

Answer 4

Hun...have been there...I did the same thing to my daughter..and now she lives with her dad...If I had to do it over...would change it all..no man is worth getting in between your kids...Unfortunatley...parents that have been divorced, as myself, can only see what they need...a relationship...and you tend to feel your kids shouldn't have any say so in who mom can like...so in turn..it takes something terrible to happen to bring mom back to her senses..did it for me that's for sure! Parent's do need to realize that if your child is still at home..it does matter how they feel about your mate..they have to live and like it too! Good Luck!

P.S. I'm 45 years old...but yeah...55 is even too old for me! Yuk!

Answer 5

tell her he is invading your home life, you have a right to privacy and to feel comfotable in your own home, i would tell my teachers or some authority figures; i don't feel safe and comfortable with him always there.