I noticed that a lot of folks would suggest "read the Bible", "go to Pastor", "Lord will save you". I respect peoples' beliefs, but how exactly does it help? How would a pastor be better than a professional counsellor? Personally, I am not religious, but I have a faith, and I don't understand how could believing in God help sort out your problems this very minute. If someone feels bad, they should take a phone and reach a friend or take a bath. Would it not be better, than praying?
2007-04-14 12:26:21 · 15 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please! no Bible talk, just be honest!
2007-04-14 12:39:20 · update #1
Because if you pray to God for wisdom, guidance, and help if you have faith, he will do it.
My wife and I are proof of it. We were on the verge of a divorce and started seeing a pastor from our church for marriage counceling, and his approach for counceling was a Biblical approach, showing what God expects of a husband and wife.
For me when things are going bad for me, when I pray to God, he listens. I've found that when things are going bad, and I take the time to praise God for the blessings I have, it builds my faith, and makes it stronger.
God has healed my marriage and my relationship with my wife. Because my wife and I together, put God first in EVERYTHING, and put him at the center of our marriage. And it's made a huge difference in our marriage. Besides when I pray, I consider it talking with a friend, because God is my friend. And who better to talk to, than the one who created us. Who knows us better than ANYONE else. Never underestimate the power of prayer.
And about pastors being better than professional councelors, here are alot of pastors out there who are licenced councelors as well, the pastor my wife and I went to for our marriage counceling is a licenced councelor.
God doesn't just wave his hand and sort things out, but he gives us strength and confidence and guidance, direction and wisdom, to help us to worth things out. And another thing, people expect God to do things right now when they want it. God works in his time, not ours. And sometimes he tells us to wait.
Why no Bible talk? The Bible is FULL of practical advice for couples. Yet it's so easy to listen to someone else give advice but not to read God's word. Jesus said I AM THE TRUTH, & the TRUTH shall set you free.
The reason that there are so many marriages in trouble today is because of temptation from the devil, he's a liar, the devil, (Satan) is the father of ALL lies.
2007-04-14 12:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-20 00:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I could not see someone saying the things that you said, but you are asking for an opinion. God's love covers a muititude of sin. You have to have faith that God will help you.I'm not saying ,just because you pray to God the problem will be removed. God knows what it best for all of us. Sometimes we mourn over the relationship going bad and if we would pray and ask God to give us peace while we go through the hurt, it would be better. We often times put people in our lives that are no good for us and as women, we keep trying to make it work and it still fall apart, never stopping to figure out if the person was meant for you? If you think that '' religion'' don't work. What do you think a bath or a professional can do also? You see, you have faith in a bath or a professional talker, when some of us have faith in Our God. There's nothing wrong with talking to people and there's nothing that God can't do. As for sorting out your problem in an instint, Nothing comes easy. Some things come by trials and arror and you learn and get stronger from your mistakes, but God can give you peace while you are going through the strom. A friend can't take the pain away, but they can talk to other people about your problems and some will even laugh behind your back, a therapist is getting paid and they don't know you nor do they care about you, when the water goes down the drain you still get out of the tub feeling blue. TRY GOD!
2007-04-14 12:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you have a particular religious belief, it can help you to frame the discussion in a way that resonates with you. If you don't, it probably will not help. For example, if you have a religious belief that "God hates divorce" then you might do better with a therapist (i.e. a clergyperson) who shares that view; on the other hand, if you don't, you're probably going to be pretty frustrated to be told that divorce isn't an option when you are being abused.
That said, even though I am not religious, I do believe in a higher power and I do pray all the time. I find that it gives me strength in many ways, not just with relationships but with life in general.
2007-04-14 13:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why they say people from different religions should not date or marry. Because you have different ideals, beliefs and opinions. If you don't have the same set of values then you are rarely going to agree on anything. So yeah religion is important in the relationship and each party needs to be on the same page.
2007-04-14 14:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey...I have lived a life others dream about.
But the HELL that went with it....I have to say in truth I did it all.
I did NOT go to a Pastor...because..you don't know what character he is...and at the time I needed..... I had to have TRUST.ABOVE ALL.
Not another nightmare.
So I knew God is a God of Love and He feels our pain.
He WANTS to help us. I challenged Him. I took the bible to my bedroom and opened it and said PROVE IT!
And HE DID.
If ever you need immediate help...call on the the Lord.
He will never fail you or forsake you.
He will never abandon you...and leave you alone.
Email me anytime...I am here to be anyones friend that needs one. Because I also know how it feels to be smashed into one zillion pieces.
I am not dead and insane today because of the power of His love for me....
2007-04-14 12:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are looking for a quick fix, by all means take a bath, call a friend of a counselor! If you want a long-term fix go to God. There is alot of truth in the quote "a family that prays together stays together". . He Is the one that can help us by keeping us moral. When we speak to one another as if we were speaking to God, we do it with humility and honesty. No lies, no deceit, no cuss words! Respect and reverence is how God teaches us to treat one another. His Holy words, become our way of life. If you are troubled, go as a couple, to HIM in prayer. Talk to each other and with God. He WILL show you how to overcome every obstacle. You have faith, use it.
2007-04-14 12:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by doodles 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's called the power of prayer and I have seen it work many times in my marriage and throughout my life. It is not necessary to talk to someone give your problems to God and he will deal with them in his own way. Really when you marry you are using words and phrases devired from the bible so it is just noraml for many to let God change things in the marriage nad help you deal with the day to day stuff. I have known many people who walk with God and his teachings including myself and I'm nor rich or drive a flashy vehicle but I'm happy in life. That is becuase I know I have the Love of God and Jesus to guide me through my life here on earth. If you do not believe me go to church one day and you will find everyday people who do not have much but are just happy and joyful in their lives. Thats how God can help in relationship troubles he showers you with his love and joy of the holy spirit.
God Bless and Best Wishes. Counsellors do help and many go that direction but alot of churches also offer prayer counselling and others prefer that becuase you are giving your problems up to God the Almighty. Who can give you better guidance then the one who made you.
2007-04-14 12:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it wouldn't help you very much. If someone is deeply religious, they may feel more comfortable talking to their pastor. Since you don't seem comfortable with that, you'd be better off talking to friends or a traditional counselor.
2007-04-14 12:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey, praying works. At least it does for me. My Bible says the Lord cares for me. That gives me comfort any way. Read the Psalms if you have a Bible. Psalm 25.
2007-04-14 12:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋