My husband and I are both almost at 30. We've been together for 6 years and have a child in elementary school. He goes out with his friends to be out in the "Club Scene" (he calls it "networking" ), go out to drink at his buddy's house, or met up with his Aunt at a bar she is a regular at. He knows I don't approve of the amount of times a week he goes out. Especially coming home at unacceptable hours, but he doesn't take me seriously. On top of all of this I've been carrying the household for 60% of the time that we've been married. How do I get him Grow UP and to take me seriously in the fact that I'm not going to be taken for granted anymore???
2007-04-14 12:17:44 · 8 answers · asked by MG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been in your shoes with a little different circumstances. I finally got to the point that i despised him. I left with out him having any idea of what was going on took all my things and all my girls things when he was at work. I left him a note. When he got home he called and tried to get me to come back I laid it all on the line and told him i wasn't coming back until things changed. Then I stayed away for about a month. I let him have my girls when he wanted and on the weekends if he wanted I didn't keep them from him. But I let him figure out what it was like to take care of every thing on his own for a while. He realized that it wasn't easy and it not fair for one parent to carry all the responsibility for the household and the children. I did get back together with him and our life has been great since. We have each too ken on half responsibilities. I do suggest trying marriage counseling. And if he can't take care of your needs and your child's need then he doesn't need to be in your life's full time. Hope fully he will open his eyes and see what he has is a wonderful thing not worth losing over going out regularly and not helping out enough good luck I know it is a hard to take but hope fully every thing is worth it in the end.
2007-04-14 13:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Momof_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the ultimate choice, either he backs off on how much he "networks" or you and your child are gone and youll sue him for divorce and everything legally you can get. Tell him youre just plain old tired of his actions and being home alone all the time. The choice is his, but be prepared with Plan B. You can always cancel a divorce action at anytime if you so choose. Dont put up with his crap, you deserve better. Good luck
2007-04-14 12:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is not easy to answer that question
but here i go
think about your baby
as soon as he grow old you will have so many problems cuz of him
he is gonna be his example and role model to follow
try to talk to him and if he doesn't care i recommend to tell him if u do not change i want a dicorce....but think about before launch this question.......see what he response
then if he says that do whatevere you want from that answer you can decide what to do
usually when a man do not care about the woman then why you have to take all his crap?
have digity be firm be coragously
do look down for an answer your are 30 and you have a baby to take care.......what i am sayong is talk to him if he doesn't change just leave....cuz soon or later he is gonna be cheating on you or getting drunk home often
take your stand persuade him just try hard
men change when women take courage
or he grows up or he get worse
i hope every thing goes right
2007-04-14 12:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and/or try marriage counseling. Your elementary age child needs a better role model than him, and you deserve better than having to carry the burden of running the household by yourself.
Do you know why he likes to go out so much? Maybe you should try to find that out, if there's a problem that can be solved, maybe he won't go out anymore.
2007-04-14 12:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definetly work it out via therapy before your son gets to like 3rd grade age. I know my dad did the same stuff when I was little but I didn't start thinking about it really until I was in 3rd grade, after my parents were divorced. He won't be affected by it if it ends before then. So make sure that it stops before then. But if you find out he's cheating on you, leave.
2007-04-14 13:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Erin Prophet, 16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is not ready to settle down, or be married. Ask him if the situation was reversed, would he approve. Otherwise you need to make a decision and decide that your husband is not mature or responsible enough to be your significant other.
2007-04-14 14:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by Wayne L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know this is true...
I was with my ex for almost 20 years.
BUT.....
Unless the Lord builds the house,
they labor in vain who build it..."
Ps. 127:1
my ex and I had an incredible sex life...up until 2 days before he left.
I know Fellatio is immortant and I did this ALL the time.
But..see...that was not enough...he got violent...and weird.
And was always gone like at the end of our marriage...the last 6 months.
2007-04-14 12:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him.
His going out partying is more important than you and the baby.
You don't need his immature crap.
2007-04-14 12:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋