ok, so i dont have a problem saying to my friend, im gay. lol because i dont think he would mind, from things weve done like wrestle and lay together and look at each other in the eyes real nice and smile at each other. i do however have a question. im planing on havin him over soon, to hang out., and weve been friends for a while, and he or me have never had a GF and we dont talk about them. so, im thinking of having him over, cuz i really like him, and want to tell him. but should i like hug him, as a sign, or just tell him, kiss him, etc...? thanks :)
2007-04-14 11:54:17 · 17 answers · asked by ravens007111 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Baby steps, Raven. Tell him what you have to tell him, then you have to be patient and wait and see what he says/does. It's like that with any kind of sensitive news about your personal life that you care to share with another person you trust enough to tell. If he is responsive to you and what you told him you feel, then go ahead, but don't assume anything is appropriate. Good luck, and I hope that it all works out for you. Be strong and proud of yourself!
2007-04-14 13:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Awww. It sounds like you guys have already been flirting a bit. Maybe you can just keep doing things like that and if he responds positively, do something more intense and obvious?
If he respond positively to things like being touched on the arm, back, hands, etc. while you guys are talking that's a good sign you can move things forward.
Good luck! : )
2007-04-14 11:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by kiwikiwi_bird@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him in a suttle way. I would actually bring up the subject and talk about it to see whats his take on it, and if it seems like he's cool with it then i would just come out and say it. Timing is everything.
2007-04-14 12:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by michael p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is looking in your eyes and smiling etc....there is a chance he might be gay to. It sounds like you not only want to tell him that you are gay but that you like him as well. That is very different. If you tell him you are gay and you want him to still be friends. It sounds like you want to be intimate with this fellow. If he is not gay then it may freak him out.
2007-04-14 12:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by djgenki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go all out and hug and kiss him I think I would sit him down and tell him. Even though you feel he might be gay to does not mean he is ready to come right out with it. Take it slow and go from there....good luck to you....
2007-04-14 12:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just put it out there. Hug him, or whatever as usual. Then just tell him: "ive been meaning to say this... I think you know it already... but I want to be upfront: I'm gay".
I do think, however, that friendship could be jeapordized if you mess around. So think that one over.
2007-04-14 12:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say I wanna lilililickyou from your head to your toe...nah Im kidding but It kinda sounds like he might have a secret too and you breaking the ice may help him get it out too....
2007-04-14 12:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kristana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey just tell him that ur gay.....if you guys are as good of friends as you say he will be fine w/it and by the way you guys act w/eachother i think he might be gay to just to scared to say anything make the first move it could work in your favor and i hope it does good luck
2007-04-14 12:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by BOBO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have two gay friends. The instant i met them i knew they were gay and so did everyone else and they dont make it too obvious either. my point is, people probably already know or already suspect youre gay.
2007-04-14 11:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, if he gets offended than not much of a friend anyway. It's not youre claiming undying love to him
2007-04-14 12:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋