Well I have two best friends and lately they have been doing stuff and not inviting me!!! what should i do i feel soo left out? i understand they were friends before i ever joined their "group" but i just dont get it! Please help me! They have sleepovers and stuff and they always do it without me its sooo not fair!
2007-04-14 10:43:04 · 18 answers · asked by MorganRox17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can have a sleepover and invite them. You can have a movie and pizza night and invite them. You could always talk to them about it. Tell them how you feel. I would probably start doing things and inviting them.
2007-04-14 10:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the thing I'd suggest is using this "tool" you might call it to confront them. It's called NTEW. (sounds like into)
N- Notice "I've noticed..."
T- Thoughts "I think..."
E- Emotion "I feel..."
W- Wish "I wish..."
This works with any situation involving realtionships. What this tool does is it makes the thing about yourself, and how you're feeling. Maybe they're not realizing that they're doing this. If you use this and they're "NTEW" the relationship they certainly will respond. If they don't then they really weren't your friends. An example of what you might say is:
"Hey, could I talk to you guys for a second? (N) I've noticed that you guys have been leaving me out of the things you do. (T) I think it's because [insert reason here]. (E) It makes me feel really left out.(W) I just wish that you would tell me why you're doing this and we could resolve whatever is going on."
It may sound really cheesy but it works, beleive me. If they still want you as a friend they will respond. This isn't something I came up with, its something professionals teach. You don't nessecarily need to use the T. Or just skip what you think is nessicary. I hope everything works out. Good luck!
2007-04-14 17:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. Why don't you try to get different friends and start doing stuff with them? Maybe you should tell them how you feel. They may realize what they are doing and start including you more or they may say you shouldn't feel sorry for yourself. Try inviting them over to do things. If this doesn't work.. then you definently need new friends.
2007-04-14 17:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by boomboombaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not, good.
That means they are best friends and they are testing you in to their group. I don't think is going to work out and you should just forget about them and find a new true friend.
This two might evern be talking behing your back for something they did not like about you or because you are better than them. Who know, but do not find out, it is not worth it.
Enjoy like, friend come and go, but best friend will always be there for you and obviously they are to, because they do not include you in their circle.
Ignore them, and do not live unhappy because of them, they were not meant to be your friends, if they did, you would be writing to Yahoo! answers with them.
Enjoy life,
Good Luck!
2007-04-14 18:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by helenmgem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the exact situation!!! I took the wrong approach which was giving them their space and ignoring them. I felt I should ignore them cause they've been ignoring me. WRONG. I lost out on a wonderful friendship us 3 once shared. So whatever you do, dont make the same mistake I did.
You feeling left out and mad is perfectly normal, anyone in that situation would. My best advice to you is sit them down, go out to a casual place like a eatery or cafe and tell them how you feel. Miscommunication can destroy a friendship.
good luck! :)
2007-04-14 17:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by j3taime729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're friends might not feel the same way as you feel about them. Some ways to start hanging out with people is to invite them to do stuff.
2007-04-14 17:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by zac s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 ur friends and tell them that u dont like 2 get lefted out on good stuff they do
2007-04-14 17:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them both down together w/ you and talk about your feeling w/ out getting angry or emotional. Tell them BOTH how you feel and ask how you ALL might be able to resolve this feeling of neglect. If they're real friends, they won't want you to feel that way and start including you.
2007-04-14 17:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jamee P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me they're trying to tell you something.
If they were friends before you knew either one
of them, they might be telling you something like
"No offense, but we think three is a crowd."
It's time for you to do some analysis: Ask your-
self just how important their company really is.
(You might find that they're not worth bothering
about.)
Best of luck with your newest, new-found friends!
2007-04-14 17:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pete K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget them and find other people to hang out with and if they ask u y u r hanging out with them be like cuz yall never invite me to anything! maybe that will help them but dont use ur other friends for that hang out with them 2
2007-04-14 17:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by xjenniloux :] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋