If you have how did it turn out and if not not what stopped you?
sometimes marrige is so boring....
No smart a** answers please......I am in the middle of a personal crisis
2007-04-14 10:10:14 · 20 answers · asked by Alaina1988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should turn to your partner to spice it up, not outside your marriage.
2007-04-14 10:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Of course I thought about it. My husband is military and right now he is gone every other 15 months. I love sex and I need it. But it really isn't worth it, a one night stand isn't worth losing my baby. I would never have an affair. And if I wanted to I would rather tell my hubby cause the cover up is always worst and it makes things more difficult. We are human and weakness is in all us but submission is not. I rule my desires and not vice versa.
2016-05-20 00:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never worth it to have an affair. Once you destroy the trust in a relationship it is almost impossible to get it back and without trust there is no relationship. You will go through stages in a marriage where it is very boring but you must stay true and you will get through it. Find something beneficial such as volunteer work or sign up to play on an adult sport team, anything to help take up your spare time will help. Good Luck!
2007-04-14 10:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by krazyingrams 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair once and because I love my man so much and knew he loved me, I told him everything.
We're not together anymore, but it feels good to be an honest person and to be free to live my life.
Yeah marriage could get boring but the excitement has to come from the person that feels the boredom.
This is not a crisis. Make a choice. Get out or stay in. It's as simple as that.
2007-04-14 10:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by gazer 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I started thinking about the possibility of an affair, that's when I started thinking that I needed to get out of my marriage. Affairs don't break up healthy relationships and I knew mine was in trouble when I wanted to (but didn't) have an affair. I'm now divorced and much, much happier.
I've known some friends who've engaged in long-term extramarital affairs. One ended with divorce, and the two moved in together and got married. They are enormously happy now. Much happier than they both were married. And, the other friend, who is married, is still involved with another married man. He refuses to leave his wife and she's miserable in her marriage and now in her affair.
Again, affairs are symptoms of the bigger illness. I hope you weather this storm okay and come out alright. Keep your head up and hang in there. Good luck to you.
2007-04-14 10:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by eliza8 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, I considered it. I was miserable, my (ex)husband was horrid, and the guy was wonderful, thoughtful, and considerate (and incredibly cute). It was a real temptation. He told me where he kept his spare key, and told me it would be there for me indefinitely. (*ow*)
However, when I got married, I made certain promises. If I wanted to break those promises, I needed to end the marriage first. It was the right thing to do.
I did not have the affair, and I'm glad I didn't. I don't think I'd remember him with the same affection if I had. I'd have certainly not felt good about myself if I had.
2007-04-14 10:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't me that had an affair but my husband did 4 months ago. The coast of his affairs to this married woman was I asked him why he never showed me his affection, never there for me and passion for so many years.I've given everything that I have esp. unconditional love, never complain or nag about little things. I thought that he loves me and it's me that he will always want but I was mistaken. He gave this married woman the affection, and passion that I never seen from him. And the funny of it was they met on a dating site, two people both married............I do am sorry for what you've been going through and I prayed that you can work on yours. now i will be divorce and I'M very happy because theres no more what if in my life and my kids....
2007-04-14 10:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes ...everyone probably does..but it is a huge mistake to act on that..if your marriage is boring then you should try to resolve that with your partner. Affairs can be like dealth to your partner..and if you didnt love that person and believed in the commitment you should have never married. Dont hurt the one who loves you so much like that..its very selfish and heartless. Trust me the damage can never be undone and the truth always comes out.
2007-04-14 10:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by CrissyQ 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not worth it!!! I made a poor choice and had an affair 5 years ago. My wife stayed by me and we worked things out, but there is always that doubt in her mind that I could do it again. Now she wants a divorce from me for other reasons and I'm devistated.
2007-04-14 10:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
yeah ! Been there and done it, to know the value of what it's all about and even had it done to me too. Been married 3 times myself and if I could go back in time I would of never cheated on my 1st wife, because what comes around goes right back at you in the end. was it worth it ? yeah at first I thought it was because she was pretty and sexy but bad at the things my first wife was really good at, she can't be replace and It's hard to have your cake and ice cream at the same time in this day and age...without expecting more !
2007-04-14 11:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have. but i have a son whom i love a lot. he thinks i m the greatest and one day he'll find out and he'll probally look down on the whole thing. i like being the lil guys hero and im going to do whatever it takes.
then there is the other thing. things are bad and i cheat then things get good again. i never cheat again and 20 years down the road she finds out. it didnt happen 20 years ago it happened the day she found out. so i dont ever want to hurt her like that. i do love her and things get redundit. i just try something new sometimes she suprises me. remember in sickness and health for richer and for poorer. that dont mean only when things are fun. my wife and i are still together.
2007-04-14 10:20:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋