My husband and I let my brother move in with us in the middle of December. My husband told him he didn't have to work because he is going to go into the navy. Now my husband says he is getting in the way ,I don't see it. My brother is having a hard time getting around to leaving. He has no where to go. I look at him as a son. I worry about him like I worry about my own kids. Yes he is 20 but,he has no father figure, and my mom's husband treats him like crap. What should I do?
2007-04-14 08:55:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first have a talk with your husband and try to understand why he feels the way he feels. Then tell him why you want your brother to stay until he goes off into the navy. Ask your husband if there is anything that your brother can change to make him (your husband) feel more comfortable about letting him stay with you. If there is have a little talk with the brother and see how you can work it out. Good luck.
2007-04-14 09:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by NY gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-12-13 03:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see, moved in the middle of December and it is now the middle of April. Your brother is 20 years of age already a young man, there is no raising him now. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband's sibling moved in with you guys. Your husband assumed that your brother was going to be around a short period of time and now that time is getting longer and longer. If he is having trouble enlisting than he needs to find a job and go to work. At least so he can have some kind of Independence. What lessons are you teaching your other kids by allowing this behavior to go on. That it is alright not to make decisions. I know that this is a hard time for your brother( finally having to deal with the real world) but he need to make a decision about his life. At what price are you going to continually take up for your brother, at the price of your Marriage?
2007-04-14 09:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is leaving soon for the Navy then no problem, but now I can see your husband's point in some way, but this same man who wants him out now said he could. Maybe he could get a partime job somewhere close to where you live. He is 20, and I understand you worry about him but don't become an enabling for him. He is old enough he should want his life to be different.
2007-04-14 09:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by cejay1953 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Brother should be working while he waits.
It takes this long to go into the Navy?
Does he have Navy paperwork around?
Your Husband might want to check on it.
Not you, let your Husband call.
2007-04-14 09:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your brother is 20 years old... and your brother will have a life other then you .. your life is with your husband now and your going to have to sadly decide what is best for you and your own...i know i did it once also and it wasnt easy but i did it before it destroyed who i was with at the time... never never let a family member move in with you on a i dont know basis.. it doesnt work and all it does is cause problems... and the other always seem to take advantage of it..... good luck hope it works for you.
2007-04-14 09:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see now. Your brother needed a place to stay before reporting for duty. Since your brother is procrastinating his enlistment, your husband wants him to move out.
Sounds about right. The boy needs to enlist so he can have a structure and self-respect.
Urge him to enlist. The Navy is easiest and it will be good for him.
2007-04-14 09:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. there is not any "blood" relation. If it replaced into your husband's brother's youngster then, sure they may well be cousins. yet, because of the fact it is your husband's brother's spouse's brother's new child, then they don't look to be cousins.
2016-10-22 04:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. Your brother needs you right now and your husband should see that. it would be different if he did not agree to let him he stay. he can't change the rules in the middle of the game
2007-04-14 09:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by mother of 2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is Cool for boys ages 8-13?
2016-11-23 10:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋