I had a friend who kept a secret. She told me she felt unwanted and she was ugly , i told her times over and over she was beautiful but she couldn't see it then she's fine now and knows she's wanted and beautiful thanks to someone very special that came into her life and spoke the right words. Her parents knew nothing about this secret. Do you think a child as young as 14 or 15 should be keeping a secret like this? or it ain't that big of a deal? If you think it's a big deal to hide this explain?
2007-04-14 07:48:39 · 15 answers · asked by Georgia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think everyone around that age has self esteem issues. We all are alittle uncertain of ourselves at one point or another. As long as we have special people in our lives who help us to realize our own self-worth and are positive influences in our lives, we can overcome these issues.
I'd only be worried if she didn't get over these feelings, if she has it was probably just another part of growing up.
2007-04-14 15:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that this secret is a big deal. Everyone goes through this because of school and pressure. This is something that you can either share or not share. If it is a burden, then share it, any other person should understand because i can say personally that i have been there.
2007-04-14 07:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its both. A lot of teens feel the same way cause we don't have a boyfriend. See, and feeling unwanted can lead to measures : cutting, ect. But you always want to watch out for your friends. And make sure you know they feel wanted. And that they can trust you with secrets. I know what I'm saying...trust me
2007-04-14 07:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by кιяѕтү ;; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels 'ugly' and 'unwanted' at some point in their life. know you probably feel like this question is important but it is sooo stupid! Some people have real problems. That sin't even a secret.
2007-04-14 07:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to tell anyone? We have all felt this way at some time & is normal especially since you say she is now fine. What is your agenda? Keep it to yourself & forget about it.
I just read what kjs71 said..This is so true if this is the case. Sorry I didn't catch that earlier. If this special person is not appropriate for her, age or whatever, please tell someone! An adult who can help.
2007-04-14 07:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Diane D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not such a big deal. Almost everyone feels like they're ugly or unwanted at a point in time in their life.
2007-04-14 08:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone tells u a secret in confidence or anythin which required them to trust you. you should not tell anyone else unless they were to harm themselves or others. Or else it shows that u have a very weak and dishonest character it also is very quick way of breaking up a friendship. so dont tell anyone no matter how mundane it might seem 2 u , 2 her it may mean alot.
2007-04-14 07:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the situation, its good that your friend is not thinking that anymore, and in the way you explained it. it seems to be no Hun it didn't matter, but in some cases it does and you will know if a secret needs to be told or not you will not need to ask.
2007-04-14 07:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by lost and need help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't a big deal really we all hate something about our selves as teenagers she will look be and feel differently when she is older as long as she is not harming herself I wouldn't worry, but hey your a good friend for being concerned :)
2007-04-14 08:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a young teenager is speaking these words, her parents need to be told, and immediately. This "someone very special" could be a child predator. Please act immediately.
2007-04-14 07:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by KJS71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋