"You're just my wife,I don't have to tell you everything!"
2007-04-14 07:04:24 · 29 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not necessarily but it appears he's keeping something from you.
2007-04-14 07:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not cheating, but definately hiding something. That statement alone means so much more than what you are actually perceiving it to mean. It means that you and your husband aren't as close as you probably should be. It means that the communication line is so broken between the two of you that he's actually not the open book required for two people to remain married. When two couples marry, they are suppose to join as one, share EVERYTHING and become one force. It's not suppose to be this way...at all. And I think it's the "just my wife" comment that really gets to me. It shows such disrespect. As if to say you are beneath whatever it is that is so much more important. The "I don't have to" part of his statement also screams that he thinks of you as more of an authoritive figure rather than a partner too, which leads to resentment and he's rebelling. All of these are major signs of trouble sweetie. If you value the marriage, it's time to have a heart to heart to see what is going on. There is definately more than meets the eye or raises an eyebrow.
WIsh you luck.
2007-04-14 14:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband tells me: "you're my wife, not my mother". Hmmm.....I wonder what that means. Husbands can be such jerks and so insenstive. It dont necesarily mean he is cheating, but he may be hiding something. You tell him that if he wants you to trust him, he better be more of an open book. Married people can have little innocent secrets to an extent, but the big important ones need to be shared. End of story.
2007-04-14 14:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily cheating but rude! I would think that being your husband and partner he would want to share everything with you. That was a mean and spiteful and makes him look like he is hiding something from you. Tell him that answer sucks and he is a jerk. He is defensive about something for sure!
2007-04-14 14:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my hubby said to me, 'You're JUST my wife,' there would be a big ol' fight. I cannot believe he said that to you! It doesn't mean he's cheating and totally depends on what the context of the conversation was about in the first place, but I would certainly have a serious pow-wow with him about the 'just' thing. Geez!
2007-04-15 01:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt think he was cheating, but id dam sure find out what he is hiding. That is me, there are few if no secrets in my marriage. My husband learned a long time ago, there is no point in hiding anything, no matter how small, causes huge trust issues. Good luck
2007-04-14 14:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not just his wife, you are supposed to be partners and on the same team. He's hiding something from you and if it's important enough to hide it's probably important enough to be a big issue with your marriage. Before you delve any deeper though, prepare yourself, make sure you're ready for whatever answers he may have for you. Never ask questions you're not ready for the answers for. Good luck!
2007-04-14 14:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Candace Rideout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you were asking him. People are allowed some privacy and secrets, as long as they aren't harmful to the relationship. I don't think he's cheating but it sounds like you don't trust him and that he feels you're prying. Try talking about it.
2007-04-14 17:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Car Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the question that evoked such a response in him. I am assuming you asked him a question which would have made him look like he was cheating.
I think the more important question would be this ... Why is he so disrespectful to you?
2007-04-14 14:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Chikadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes for him, goes for you. I'd go out as much as possible and not tell him a thing. Anytime he asks you anything - state "You're just my husband, I don't have to tell you everything." See how he likes it. Sometimes they need a taste of their own medicine.
2007-04-14 14:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already think he's cheating.
The most important thing to remember in relationships is that we all have choices. If he chooses to cheat you have to choose whether or not you want to put up with it.
2007-04-14 14:12:45 · answer #11 · answered by Dona A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋