Why do black women think they can just flirt with my black boyfriend when they see he is with ME?

Question

Some (not all)Black women think they own ALL black men !
It's as if they could care-less if WE are together , they will still smile at him , wink at him, stare at him, and do all of this right in front of me, as if they dare me to say something. My man just tells me it's because they feel white women don't deserve black men..not jealousy..!
Why are they so bold and confident? So arrogant?

Answer 1

Like you said, they're arrogant. Tell your boyfriend to say something like " This is my girlfriend, don't flirt with me."

Answer 2

What the???
Excuse me?

Sounds to me honey that you are not secure enough in your relationship with your "black man" to handle a little competition.

Flirting happens even if you had dated within your own race.
Trust me love, when I see a black man sporting a white honey, desirability for that black man is diminished! And I know I am not the only black woman that feels this way.

Get over yourself! You seem to be intimidated by the strength and boldness of some black woman.
And exactly what is wrong with confidence and smiling? Heck they might know the dude!

See, it's attitudes like yours that make black women want to reach out and snatch white women's hair out!

What makes you think that because you happen to be a white woman that black women don't do the same thing to other black women when they are with their BLACK men?

You need to check yourself and your prejudice attitude!

Finally...if it seems that they are challenging you (the black women)...challenge them back...if your man is worth anything they won't get to you or take the so called challenge any further if he is around.

Answer 3

I'm a white woman and my boyfriend is black too; I must say that some black women do get annoyed when they see me and my man together; most of them, though, don't: I have some good friends too among black women; I think it depends on education; some white men behave just as bad: they assume that if a white woman dates a black man she must be a fat chick that no white man would want; they think that black men take what white men discard; those white men think black men don't deserve 'their' women either; so, it's just about racism and ignorance you know: those black women who disrespect us just because we're together with a black man are just as ignorant and racist as those dumb white men who think that black men pick only fat and ugly white women; just live your life, main thing is you love him and he loves you, the rest doesn't matter;)

Answer 4

Your boyfriend is wrong. Almost all girls will do things like that not just black ones. A lot of white girls at my school go out with their best friends ex-boyfriends. And why the heck are white people responding to this there's no way they could know the answer.

Answer 5

Some women regardless of color will do this stuff it happens when I am out with my husband sometimes and we are both black.. In fact when we were first married our neighbor (a single white lady) would always be flirting with my husband, but my hubby shut her down after one too many times .. he told her point blank that he did not like the fact that she was disrespecting me. I am guessing that women like attention and this is how some of them try to get it

Answer 6

In my experience, most women will flirt with a man in the company of another woman just to raise the ire of the woman and at the same time challenge the man to make a wrong move.

Too often, those same women wouldn't look my way if I was alone. Race has nothing to do with it.

Answer 7

Wow I never knew so many people knew so much about black women.....it could be youre inscure that lead you to believe that its just black women staring at you because perhaps you have some issues being in a interracial relationship...so you only look at black women responses to see if they will accept you.....trust me if you open your eyes youll see a whole new world.....

Answer 8

Honey, they aren't jealous. Looking, winking, and staring isn't flirting by any stretch of the imagination. You ever heard of look but don't touch. I really think you are a little insecure, and that your boyfriend's feeding into this insecurity of yours. Be confident with him, stare back...those women may not want him. And I am one of those who could care less what race anyone dates. It's 2007 love comes in all shapes, ethnic groups, and races. DO YOU...Don't worry about anyone else!!

Answer 9

Black men do this too when they are with white women... flirt and sleep with black women. Just tell your boyfriend not to respond and they will stop.

Answer 10

i agree with the first answer... some black women are jealous because they feel that something is wrong with them when they see a brother with someone that is not a black woman. the reason they disrespect you like that is because they know you're not going to do anything, but that's all that it is.... most of the time, they're all talk, unless you try to step to them. whenever they do that, just ignore them. don't do it in a way that's really obvious, like purposely kiss your b/f in front of them, because then, you're really asking for a beat down. but rather instead, talk to your b/f and tell him to don't pay attention to any of them, and just walk away. if he loves you that much, he won't let them disrepect you in that manner. hope this helps!!

Answer 11

Whly do you let other peoples' actions bother you? Ignore the ignorant. Color should be the last issue. I don't beleieve any one is jealous. Jealous of what? You both are human beings...HUMAN BEINGS- NOT COLOR.... What is white? What is Black? Thier is no color in black and white. You might have darker skin then me. Does that make you black and me white?
Put your head up high and walk on girl..........