Has she moved on, and should I?

Question

I left my job 7 months ago, but still currently work in the same geography as the last job, calling on the same customers. From time to time, I send "hello" e-mails and text messages to my former boss to keep communication lines open. Besides, I know that I left in good terms, although I also know that she never really knew the real reasons that made me leave. I left not because of her, but for other reasons. I thought that she and I had a good boss-employee relationship, but I feel that she took my resignation as some kind of betrayal. Initially, she used to answer the e-mails and text messages. Lately, I get no response. I suspect that she wants me to leave her alone and that she would like for each of us to move on. However, I see no reason why we can't remain friends. Your thoughts, please.

Answer 1

Your right.
Stop it.
Not professional.

As a Boss, I would have be courteous and brief the first time and not replied again after that. She is not your friend or buddy and it serves no benefit to her to talk to you. At this point she professionally doesn't care "what your motivations" are for any thing.

Sorry for that reality check. Direct your energy elsewhere.
Just drop her a "business" holiday card annually, to keep the lines "open" and be courteous at business events like Chamber meetings or such.

Answer 2

First of all, don't mix freindshop and work. Regardless of how YOU think of it, friendship is there regardless of financial gain, and work is only there because of financial gain. They are two separate things.

I would suggest you'd limit your communication with your former boss to few times a year, perhaps less. It is great that you left in good terms. You'll be surprised, later on in his life, how good of a decision you made. Equally, it is important that you don't share too much, just in case you might need her again. Things you share might come back to hurt you if you do it excessively.

Answer 3

It is really hard to remain friends with coworkers after you leave. It has happened to me. People take everything way too personally. I don't understand why other people take peoples life choices so personally. IT kind of pisses me off. It has happened to me recently, i just put in my month notice at my job, and the lady i work the closest with didn't talk to me for week.