Does it scare you when you think about Fate?

Question

Like my dad was a good footballer and a scout from Manchester United had come to watch him, but on that same day he broke his leg clean through. If he hadn't broke it, maybe the scout would have selected him to play for Man U and then he would never have met my mum and i wouldn't have been born. It scares me sometimes. It prmpts you to think if you answer this question, what may have happened if you didn't, would you have left your pc earlier and something terrible happen to you?

It's a bit weirder now, because someonw said about the butterfly effect, i looked it up on wikipedia.com, this lead me too chaos theory, then judgment day, then to a list of antichrists, then to a list of american presidents. Lincoln caught my eye and I decided to look at who got assainated and apparently he ded and i didn't previously know this. bu the weird thing is, he was assasinated on this day in 1865 thats the 14th april. Makes me think even more now...

Answer 1

I think about my fate all the time. I would love to turn back time but then again if I did that I wouldn't be where I am today but still to go back haunts me more then to desire what tomorrow will bring. Fate is a funny thing. No one can predict it and yet fate happens to all of us whether it be good or bad. I can't say what would happen if I leave my PC earlier because I don't know what the outcome of today will bring. I wish for only good things but yet I could walk out to my mail box in a matter of minuets and my whole life could turn upside down yet at the same time I could just sit here at my PC and be struck down with a fatal heart attack or my phone could ring with good news or maybe even bad news.
If my first husband would not have passed away I wouldn't be with my second husband who is every bit as good as the first if not better but still I yearn for the first.
If I had not moved down south I feel my son would have stayed in college and not married the woman whom has turned out to be my best friend and I wouldn't have my 4 wonderful grandchildren. Yet if given the choice I would give it all up to have just one more day with my first husband to be able to tell him everything I didn't get to say before he passed away. It might mean a very lonely life for me in the future but then again we can not predict out fate.

Answer 2

I wanted a full time position with a local college I was teaching at, and so in order to manipulate the outcome I started applying for positions at other colleges in order to twist their hands. I ended up getting an interview with a college that was a few more miles drive away with the thought in advance it was still just to be used as a lever. A colleague said to me "if you get the job, it was fate and meant to be". I told her bullshit and that I was in control of the situation. I ended up getting the post and really loved the new college, but the question is: Am I still in control by choosing to change locations? Or is it fate with a mixture of choice and self-control? Life is about odds, and there are some things you will not be in control of. Good luck with that!

Answer 3

It does.

I've been thinking of this matter since I remember thinking about things and fate is one thing that will never cease to amaze me.

If my mother had went to the UK to work as a nurse, she wouldn't have met my father and had me. If she had not have me, she would have lived a different life in a faraway country and probably, be a mother to another person.

Likewise, if I made a mistake in my college application, I wouldn't have landed into that particular college, and then, I wouldn't have known this group of friends I have now! Maybe, if I weren't thrown into this friendship equation, the friends I have now might not even be friends!

Everything everyone does contributes to something. Like dominoes, perhaps?

Answer 4

Thinking about fate makes me feel like i have a purpose in the world and it makes me feel like no matter what i do, i am making the choice that was supposed to happen. It's kind of like the butterfly effect. One thing happens and triggers another thing to happen. For example if your dad never broke his leg he wouldnt have met your mom and you wouldnt have been born and you wouldnt have written this question and i might have left my computer earlier and something terrible could have happened. Kind of makes you think..

Answer 5

It can be scary, but that is something we all need to face in life. Too many people seem to think themselves as immortal, they don't accept death and live in an illusion of false security. Life is not about being fair or secure, you never know when something could happen and so I think we should all be careful to be our stongest and best in all moments of life, that's all you can do really. It's useless to dwell on "could haves" or "should haves." Besides, there's still the possiblity your dad could have met your mom some other way, via some other path. But then you get into all the ridiculousness of time travel theories, etc. It's really useless.

Answer 6

The unknown doesn't scare me b/c your life story is already written and your choices in life can change the plot of your life by enduring the consequences of your actions.

Answer 7

Things happen for a reason. Inevitably fate cannot be changed.

Answer 8

Kind of but there's a simple solution for me. I just don't think about it but i do believe that everything happens for a reason.

Answer 9

If you believe in fate, then there isnt anything you can do to change it. It is already determined, set in stone, so to speak. So why worry?

Answer 10

It does bother me. especially given scary if you think about how much control you have. if every action has a reaction, and that reaction has a reaction etc etc and every movement we make is just an electro-chemical impulse. is every descision, every breath, every movement painfully inevitable?